I did a video a few months ago called Is Masturbation a sin looking at whether from a Christian worldview is masturbation something we should be doing or not. From that video I had numerous people message me and post comments about the next question which is how do I stop masturbating? I will copy the older video under this new one in case you have not seen the first video. It might give some context for why people want to stop. This video is really designed for people who want to stop masturbating. I think this list is good for people from a faith-based background or not as only a few 1 of the points is spiritual in nature.
Love to hear any thoughts you have on this video. I know these are very controversial and tough topics. I like the analogy of a dart board. I wanted to throw a dart at the board. I will not get everything perfect but I love the conversation and debate on this topic and I may make a future video with any changes or additions I get from this discourse.
The Porn Project in 1 sentence: Stop Looking at Porn
But how do you actually do that?
This talk will challenge our beliefs (what is porn?, history, theology), our behaviours (addiction, accountability, triggers, lifestyle, environment etc), and look beyond ourselves at how porn might be hurting others around us (spouse, children, dating relationships, people involved in the pornography industry etc).
The goal is to be less of a presentation and more of a training. Training to equip and empower individuals (men and women), parents and leaders on how to navigate this conversation no matter if you dabble, struggle, or are addicted to pornography in any of its forms.
Moving towards practical solutions from just talk Moving towards wholeness from the brokenness. Moving towards freedom from pornography
If this talk helped you or someone in your family and you would like to make a small donation to the Charity (Worlds Apart) you can do so from this link – https://www.canadahelps.org/en/dn/15850 Thanks for any support.
Interesting article. Easy to read and to the point. Love to hear your thoughts.
If someone cropped out one of the graphic sex scenes from Game of Thrones and put that single scene online, by itself apart from any of the plot and intrigue, and your teenage son downloaded it, would you call it porn? Yes, you would. So why is it that when we dress these scenes up with HBO glitz and glamour that all of a sudden they are socially acceptable? Is it because we actually love porn, but don’t want to admit that publicly? We don’t want to surf the dirty websites, but if we can get our porn via HBO (all on Netflix and/or Amazon Prime now, by the way), it’s like having our cake and eating it too. Porn without the social stigma. Porn that your spouse actually lets you watch. Porn you can rationalize.
And if you think you can somehow filter out the porn and only take in the art, you are deceived and double-minded as well. Porn does what porn does: as soon as it enters the scene, it removes all dignity and humanity. All that is left is body parts and the consuming of other humans. You can’t keep someone’s dignity once you have already devoured it. You don’t get porn and human dignity; you get porn or human dignity. Choose wisely.
This is my full presentation on how we can help our kids get a Christian Sexual Ethic or a Christian Worldview of Healthy Sexuality. This “Sex Talk” or as it used to be called “the birds and the bees” is something that we all must do as parents. Christian parenting in this area adds another layer as we come from a very different worldview than mainstream society. We do need to have better education around this topic of sex in our homes, than our churches, and then in our schools.
Description: Everyone likes to feel comfortable. In fact, we pad our lives with comforts of all kinds and those things that make life uncomfortable for us we push as far from us as possible. If you’re like most people, you quietly withdrew as you read the title of this piece (the.sex.talk) in Christian context.
The Why: One scary statistic says that 70-80% of Christian Young Adults have had sex before they get married. We need to completely rethink how we engage students in this conversation as parents, youth leaders and as members of the greater Christian community. What a difficult time to grow up as a teenager; so many questions and so few people willing to answer them. As Christian adults, we cannot continue to be silent on these issues of sexuality.
The How: This talk helps equip and empower parents as to how to help their kids get a Biblical worldview of healthy sexuality. The.Sex.Talk is an unapologetic, straight-forward talk on the nature of sex in this era of modern, overly-sexualized culture. Addressing such issues as Christian faith, STI’s, pregnancy, pornography, sexting, singleness and grace, Brett Ullman tackles the often awkward and uncomfortable topic of sex in a direct, Biblical fashion linking current topics and trends with Biblical examples and principles.
The Goal: This project attempts to create and promote a culture where Christian parents and their teenagers are equipped and empowered to have this conversation resulting in better, healthier choices in the area of sex for their teenagers.
Our media-saturated culture consistently floods our minds with inaccurate, often twisted truths about the true nature of sex. As fellow journeyers, let’s ask the tough questions together as we look to connect our ancient faith with our modern world.
This is my full presentation called the sex talk. If you want to show this to your church, youth group, camp etc you can buy a digital download from the Vimeo link – https://vimeo.com/ondemand/thesextalk
I struggled with whether to vlog about this topic as it is one of those topics that we really don’t talk about in the church world. When we do talk about it, we often have differing opinions on this, and it just leads to unhealthy discourse. I think it is imperative that we address masturbation as it an issue that not only adults (men and women) but our children (again men and women) need to understand. We are ALL struggling with topics like masturbation, pornography, sex, etc in our modern sexualized culture today. Now, I need you to bear with me. This will be a little longer than my usual videos as we need to address this conversation in a context that is more than just a yes or no to masturbation. This discussion is actually part of a larger umbrella which is how we get a Christian Worldview of healthy sexuality or what I often call a Christian sexual ethic. How you view, masturbation is actually under a greater context of how you consider all topics from sex, pornography, dating, and also masturbation amongst others.
As Christians we can have differing opinions on issues and still be brothers and sisters in Christ
Love to hear your thoughts on this. With topics like this please keep all discussion respectful.
Really interesting documentary on the issues of “purity culture” within the Christian Church. I have seen too much damage when we make virginity an idol as opposed to an ideal. The video is from 2010 but it still worth the watch. Students today have so many questions and we are offering so little education on how to have a Biblical Worldview of healthy sexuality. We need to do a better job as parents, educators, and the church in this conversation.
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Synopsis: The Purity Ball symbolizes a father’s protection over his daughter’s virginity, but how does this reflect in the choices she makes, understanding her sexuality, and knowing her worth as a woman? This documentary examines the effects of Abstinence-Only Programs versus Comprehensive Sex Education in schools and what society can do to help lower teen pregnancies, abortions, and STD’S, as well as poverty and sexual abuse.
“Daddy I Do” shows how teen pregnancy, abortion, poverty, and sexual abuse all trace back to Sex Education in America. Opinions about sex stem from religious views, but it’s up to you, the viewer, to determine whether or not ideologies should decide what’s best for our children and our country. I strongly believe this film has the power to shed light on topics that many Americans are too afraid to address. Knowledge is power, and we need to use that power towards good. I encourage you to see the deeper meaning behind “Daddy I Do”, in hopes of a better tomorrow through positive action.