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New Talk is out! Parenting: Navigating Everything

My new Parenting: Navigating Everything talk is now completed. Love a chance to speak this to your parents at your church, school, conference, camp, or other events.

We all want the best for our kids but which parenting information do we choose? With over 75,000 parenting books produced in the past 21 years and the many voices, articles and online resources available, the task of figuring out where to turn for parenting advice is overwhelming. Some foundational parenting questions all parents must consider:

What are Parenting Styles and which ones should I be using in my parenting?
How can I gain better communication skills and use them with my children?
What does spending time with my kids look like?
How do I effectively discipline my children?
Various aspects of home life also need addressing, with each section being a sizeable discussion on their own. In this talk I will look at where parents can begin these discussions, (on-ramps) and give them practical tools so they can effectively talk with their kids about all of the following areas:

  • Family Discipleship (how to raise our kids in our Christian faith)
  • Health (mental, emotional, physical)
  • Sexuality (pornography, dating, marriage)
  • Media (TV, movies, music, social media)
  • Drug / Alcohol use & abuse
  • Education
  • Finances

Let’s look together at how we can best help our kids navigate the world they are growing up in.

They will not be with me forever, so I prepare them accordingly. – Trophy Child, Ted Cunningham

Click here for the link to my website.

New poster is below

 

How to be a better Father, Husband, and Boyfriend: The Man Talk

Numerous times each year I get a chance to come to churches and conferences and do a talk for guys. I thought I would post my entire talk: the Man Talk on youtube. Please share this with any guys you know.

The Man Talk is what it sounds like – a discussion about what it’s like to be a Man today. It’s a real talk, a meat, and potatoes approach to issues pressing us from all sides:

Being the best Father I can be.
What it’s like to be a Husband and a Servant.
Christian men and sex.

Boyfriend. Father. SON. Husband. Lover. Fixer. Buddy. Servant. Sexual. Boss. Hero. Boys Adrift. Friend. Guide. Daddy. Courageous. Loyal. Theirs. Mine.

Everybody needs a good talk at some point. And, this is one for you. Everyone’s welcome to the man talk – ladies, no jeering. We’re working on a talk for you too 😉

Real Men who aren’t afraid to talk about Man stuff, and who are better for it.

If you would like to bring me in to speak this talk to your guys just send me a message or visit my website

Truth Tellers: my speaking course is coming to YouTube for free!

For the last year, I have had a course on how to become a full-time speaker on the Udemy site (teaching site). I decided that I am going to place all of the videos on Youtube for everyone. These videos are basically everything I have learned in my 20+ years as a speaker. I think there are around 70 videos you will be able to go through once I have uploaded them all. They are all short and easy to go through. No matter whether you speak once in a while, weekly or full time I think there is good information here for everyone. If there are topics you want me to add let me know and I will make more videos.

Please share this with anyone who might be interested in any kind of public speaking.

I have uploaded the first 10 videos to a Playlist on my YouTube channel. Please subscribe so that you will be notified when the others go online. The others will go on slowly as I get time to upload them. The first session is below and you should be able to find the others from there.

Thanks

Dating Bill of Rights and Responsibilities – Thoughts?

I am working on creating a dating bill of rights and responsibilities. I have taken the first run at this and thought I would post and see if people can give me some thoughts. What am I missing? Anything that needs to be deleted? My goal is to make this into a printable PDF for new dating couples to sign as they begin to date.

At the beginning of a new relationship, I think it is really important to outline what is expected from both parties in that dating relationship. It outlines not only what are your rights in dating but what are also your responsibilities in a dating relationship as well.

In this dating relationship, I have the right to:

  1. Leave this relationship at any time. I have the right to not be guilted to stay or threatened to stay in a relationship that I want to leave
  2. Not be physically abused in any way, shape or form
  3. Not be emotionally abused. I have the right not to be verbally abused by someone whom I am dating. Words like stupid, worthless, ugly, fat and others will not be tolerated
  4. I have the right to set sexual boundaries of the beginning of the relationship and I expect these boundaries to be respected.
  5. I have the right to never be coerced, threatened, or forced to do anything sexually that I do not want to do
  6. I have the right not have my dating partner act jealous or possessive
  7. I have the right to not be stopped from seeing family and other friends
  8. I have the right to always be treated with the deepest respect in this relationship
  9. I have the right to be in a healthy, encouraging, supportive dating relationship
  10. I have the right to be treated as an equal in this relationship
  11. I have the right not to be cheated on

In this dating relationship I:

  1. Pledge to not stay in this dating relationship when I know it will not be moving forward
  2. Control my own anger and frustrations and never physically abuse the person I am dating
  3. I pledge to work hard to control any negative talk that comes out of my mouth especially words that can hurt the person I am dating
  4. Will set out sexual boundaries at the beginning of the relationship and I would work hard at not putting my the person I am dating in situations which might make these boundaries be tested
  5. I will never coerce, threaten or force the person I am dating to go anywhere, wear anything, do anything that they do not choose to do
  6. Will work hard to not make my partner jealous by what I am doing
  7. Will have a balanced life seeing both the person I am dating as well as family and friends. I will not isolate myself only being with the person I am dating
  8. I will treat the person I am dating with the utmost respect.
  9. I will work hard at creating an atmosphere that is healthy, encouraging and supportive
  10. I will always treat my dating partner as an equal
  11. I will put boundaries in my life so that I will not fall to the temptation of cheating on my dating partner. If I decide to be with someone else I will break up before moving forward with another relationship
  12. I pledge to get counsel from my family, friends, teachers, pastors and other people giving me leadership in my life to work on all aspects of my emotional, physical, and spiritual well being
  13. Accept responsibility for my own actions. If I hurt the person I am dating in any way I will look at seeking forgiveness and healing that rift I make have caused. If needed I will seek counselling to get help to be a better person.

Thanks for any thoughts

52 weeks of Parenting Questions and Solutions

As we head into 2018 I thought that I would start a new weekly Vlog (video blog) going through questions people have dealing with any aspect of parenting. I have been researching the concept of parenting for my new parenting talk (Parenting: Navigating Everything – Equipping and empowering parents to lead wisely, model vulnerably, and shape faithfully as they help their children launch into adulthood) and the new book on Parenting which I am presently writing. I thought it would be fun to take 1 question per week and do a YouTube video with some solutions to how we actually deal with that issue.

So what I presently need to start are questions parents have. This can be for any aspect of parenting. Below are the categories in the new talk.

Foundations of parenting:

  1. Parenting Styles (what are they, which ones should we be doing)
  2. Communication
  3. Time
  4. Discipline

Topics we must address:

  1. Family Discipleship
  2. Health (mental, emotional, physical)
  3. Sexuality (pornography, dating, marriage)
  4. Media (TV, Movies, Music)
  5. Drug / Alcohol use and abuse
  6. Education
  7. Finances

Please add your questions to this blog or on social media and I will copy your questions over to a list for the next year. You can also email me at brett@brettullman.com

Thanks and Happy New Year to everyone.

Title for New Parents Talk – thoughts?

As I finish up my new talk for parents I am trying to decide on the title and byline for it. Thought I would ask people their thoughts.

The current graphics I am having created will be some sort of boat with 4-5 paddles per side. The boat itself will be the foundations of parenting we must have and the paddles will be all of the sections that we need to address as parents with our kids.

This talk will cover the foundations of parenting: (boat analogy)

  1. Parenting Styles (what are they, which ones should we be doing)
  2. Communication
  3. Time
  4. Discipline

The remaining section of the talk will be helping parents with all of the different concepts we must deal with: (paddles)

  1. Family Discipleship
  2. Health (mental, emotional, physical)
  3. Sexuality (pornography, dating, marriage)
  4. Media (TV, Movies, Music)
  5. Drug / Alcohol use and abuse
  6. Education
  7. Finances
  8. Section on being Men/Women
  9. anything missing?

Current Titles and Bylines I am thinking of

  • cradle2college
  • Parenting – Everything we need to do
  • Parenting – A Practical Guide to Raising kids
  • Parenting – Equipping and Empowering parents in all aspects of parenting
  • Parenting – Solutions to helping you be a better parent
  • any other thoughts?

Thanks for any help. I am presently booking this talk for Jan 2017 onwards. Love to have a few test runs in Jan. Let me know if you are interested.