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Top 10 ways to stop masturbating

I did a video a few months ago called Is Masturbation a sin looking at whether from a Christian worldview is masturbation something we should be doing or not. From that video I had numerous people message me and post comments about the next question which is how do I stop masturbating? I will copy the older video under this new one in case you have not seen the first video. It might give some context for why people want to stop.
This video is really designed for people who want to stop masturbating.
I think this list is good for people from a faith-based background or not as only a few 1 of the points is spiritual in nature.

Love to hear any thoughts you have on this video. I know these are very controversial and tough topics. I like the analogy of a dart board. I wanted to throw a dart at the board. I will not get everything perfect but I love the conversation and debate on this topic and I may make a future video with any changes or additions I get from this discourse.

Book Update – Parenting: Navigating Everything

Just wanted to do a quick update on my new book Parenting: Navigating Everything. This book has been in the works for around 2 years. I am presently into the final stages of my own editing and the book will then be edited by a professional editor throughout the summer. The goal is the book will be available in the early part of the Fall.

My editing costs for this book (which is approx. 300,000 words) is pretty large. I need to raise about $8500 for this. If you are able to help in any way you can make a tax-deductible donation. Thanks for any support.

How to Donate:

To donate online please do this through our link on CanadaHelps – click here

Or to donate by mail please make your cheque payable to “Worlds Apart” and address it to: Worlds Apart, 68 Ashbury Blvd, Ajax, Ontario, L1Z 1M8

If you have any questions please contact me through social media or email me at brett@brettullman.com

How to have a better relationship with our phones: entire 9-video series

Below are direct links to all 9 videos I did in this series.

Video 1 – touch and interaction
Video 2 – notifications
Video 3 – family dinners
Video 4 – movies
Video 5 – work/school
Video 6 – restaurant
Video 7 – driving
Video 8 – walking
Video 9 – downtime/vacation

We can all do better to combat phone addiction in our lives. As parents, we also need to make sure our kids are learning healthy use of phones and other technology as well.

Health Update: New Diagnosis … Lyme Disease.

As many of you know I have been on a journey with mental health over the past 7 years. I have shared this both online and in my talks and am thankful for the prayers and other support during this time. About 3 weeks ago I was diagnosed with Lyme Disease and have started a new road on this journey. We have shared with a few people and I am starting to get messages, emails, and texts about this so I thought I would do a post and share information with all of you. Let me do a Q and A below to answer the questions I am currently getting.

  1. What is Lyme Disease? You can find a good description of Lyme Disease here – https://canlyme.com/lyme-basics/
  2. Do you remember being bitten by a Tick? I have no memory of ever being bitten by a tick, or having the common circle rash that comes after being bitten.
  3. Is this the root of all of your mental health struggles? This is a great question and one currently I do not have an answer to. I don’t know if this is something new or if Lyme is the root of my 7-year journey. I will know more as treatment progresses.
  4. Have you started treatment? I actually started treatment a few hours before I began writing this blog post. I have a US Lyme Doctor, a Canadian Doctor, Naturopath, and a Psychologist who are my “team” for the next little while. Treatment, as far as I know right now, is a combination of antibiotics, other medications as needed, vitamins and supplements along with special diet, exercise and rest.
  5. Will this affect your speaking? No, this will not affect my speaking. This is one of the main reasons I also wanted to write this blog. I don’t want people who are interested in having me in to speak not book me thinking I am not able to. My speaking schedule will continue as is. I am fortunate in my job as a speaker that the majority of my time is spent in my home office writing, researching, building talks, etc. The 2-3 times a week that I have to go and speak I will be fine during this treatment plan. Booking me to speak will actually take away some of the financial stress knowing that I have upcoming speaking engagements. I will make sure I have lots of downtime in between speaking dates to make sure I am taking care of myself.
  6. How can I help? If you are a praying person, please keep me in your prayers. I have been told that this will be a long journey toward recovery.
  7. How can I make a donation to help with costs? I have had some people this week ask me if they can help by making a financial donation as they know a lot of my treatment will not be covered. If you are interested in this, please make your donation to Worlds Apart (https://www.canadahelps.org/en/dn/15850) which is the charity that I am Director of. Just choose the fund “Brett Ullman” while making your donation. I really appreciate any support.

Thanks for taking the time to read this quick update.

Brett’s Picks – Mental Health Books

In my talk The Walking Wounded, I address mental health. I walk through my own journey and give some great resources on how to help yourself or others struggling with mental health. Below are my favourite books on this topic.

I have given you direct links to Amazon in Canada and the US after each book where you can find the full descriptions. I have put (faith-based) at the end of the book if the author has faith-based content in the book.

  1. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook: Edmund J. Bourne (Canada) (US)
  2. Mental Health and the Church: A Ministry Handbook for Including Family impacted by Mental Illness: Stephen Grcevivh (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  3. Christians Get Depressed too: David Murray (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  4. A Troubled Mind: Mental Illness and the Church’s Mission – Amy Simpson (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  5. When Life Goes Dark: Finding Hope in the Midst of Depression: Richard Winter (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  6. Leading on Empty: Refilling your tank and renewing your passion: Wayne Cordeiro (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  7. The Relaxation Response: Herbert Benson & Miriam Z. Klipper (Canada) (US)
  8. Emotionally free: a prescription for healing body, soul, and spirit: Dr. Grant Mullen (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  9. Trauma & Resilience – Effectively Supporting Those Who Serve God: Frauke C. Schaefer & Charles A. Schaefer (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  10. Overwhelmed Winning the War Against Worry: Perry Nobel (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  11. When Panic Attacks: The New Drug-Free Anxiety Treatment that can change your life: David D. Burns (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  12. Who switched off my Brain? controlling toxic thoughts and emotions: Dr. Caroline Leaf (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)

These are all books that I have read and I found very helpful in my own journey and research on Mental Health. If there are any great books you think I am missing please send them to me. This list will grow over time.

My 2 books on mental health:

  1. Your Story: The Wounding Embrace: Brett Ullman & Adam Clarke (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  2. Reset: Burnout, Breakdown and Suffering that leads to Hope, Healing, Redemption and Rescue: Brett Ullman (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)

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