Brett.Ullman

The Church and Mental Health: What Do the Numbers Tell Us?

Really great article here from Ed Stetzer. We are getting better at this in the church world but we still have a long way to go.

A Gap in Awareness. There was a significant gap in what pastors said their churches provided and what family members said was available. In six of the nine typical types of care referenced in the survey, fewer family members than pastors believed their churches offered such help.

This was particularly true for churches maintaining a list of experts to which people could be referred. Almost seven in 10 (68%) pastors said their churches had such a list. Less than three in 10 (28%) family members had the same perception.

The Views of Those with Mental Illness. Much like their family members, those personally suffering from mental illness and who also regularly attend church believe more could be done to help them.

Here are the ways a majority said the Church could assist them:

  • 74%: help families find local resources for support and dealing with the illness
  • 63%: talk about it openly so the topic is not so taboo
  • 61%: improve people’s understanding of what mental illness is and what to expect
  • 58%: provide training for the Church to understand mental illness
  • 57%: increase awareness of how prevalent mental illness is today

For many suffering from a mental illness, they simply want to be treated as people and not outcasts. Overall, 70% of Protestants with a mental illness wanted fellow church members to merely get to know them as a friend. For consistent church attenders, that number climbed to 78%. They just want to be treated like a person, which sometimes even those in ministry can forget to do.

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dating.for.life: the questions is now available

I am excited to announce that my talk called dating.for.life: the questions has been filmed and is available for digital download or rent. If you follow this link it will take you to VimeoOnDemand where you can get a copy. Love to hear your thoughts. https://vimeo.com/ondemand/datingforlife

In this new update of my original dating for life talk (now on youtube) I have gone back to the basics. In this new talk I answer 8 basic foundational questions on dating:

1. What is dating?
2. When should I start dating?
3. Am I ready to start dating?
4. How do I start dating?
5. What are Red Flags in my dating relationships?
6. How do I find out if they are the “One”?
7. How do I break up?
8. What if they are the right person for me?

Simple and practical conversations on dating for High School and Young Adults. This talk might also be good for parents who want to understand how to help equip their kids for conversations on dating.

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To students NOT working this summer… and their parents

This vlog is for both parents and students. Just some thoughts for those students who did not get a summer job. I have had about 50 conversations with parents about students, summer jobs, and responsibilities around the house in the past few months. I think we need to address these conversations up front?

Students: things you should not do this summer
Students: thinks you should be doing this summer
Parents: are we equipping our kids properly in this area?

Love to hear your thoughts.

 

How to talk to your children about pornography – book suggestions

We are living in a world where the question is not if your kids will see pornography, but when. We need to help equip our kids to deal with porn. This video shows 2 great books for parents of young children that you can read with your kids to help explain this tough topic.

Canada
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr – https://amzn.to/2ItqkNb
Good Pictures Bad Pictures – https://amzn.to/2MZ7XmM

US
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr – https://amzn.to/2lA7dIg
Good Pictures Bad Pictures – https://amzn.to/2MraCom

Love to hear your thoughts.

Suicides Have Increased. Is This an Existential Crisis?

Really good read from the NY Times.

As a behavioral scientist who studies basic psychological needs, including the need for meaning, I am convinced that our nation’s suicide crisis is in part a crisis of meaninglessness. Fully addressing it will require an understanding of how recent changes in American society — changes in the direction of greater detachment and a weaker sense of belonging — are increasing the risk of existential despair.

All of which brings us to the changing social landscape of America. To bemoan the decline of neighborliness, the shrinking of the family and the diminishing role of religion may sound like the complaining of a crotchety old man. Yet from the standpoint of psychological science, these changes, regardless of what you otherwise think about them, pose serious threats to a life of meaning.

We are less and less connected with each other. This is such a big topic with so many different factors contributing to why people might take their life. I found this article has some good points. What are your thoughts?

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