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Parents: Momo challenge

Quick PSA (Public Service Announcement) today for parents

Parents, please stop forwarding messages on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. talking about this MOMO challenge. I have had so many parents messaging me in fear this past week. Parents keep tagging me in MOMO articles but never the articles that talk about how…

IT IS A HOAX

I decided to make a Youtube video on it and within minutes found someone else who made a great response. PLEASE watch the first 7 minutes (small language at the start) on this. He goes through everything and more that I was going to say.

We do as parents need to take an active role in our kids lives both online and off.

We do need to addressing bullying and mental health issues amongst others in the lives of our kids.

We do need to stop listening to fear-based media and do a little research for ourselves before we become part of the problem and share this material around. We as parents need to have some media discernment and follow proper digital citizenship on what we do online.

Please check out the first part of the video above and I would love to hear your thoughts.

Brett’s Picks | Gabor Maté – In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts

I read about 10 books for my chapter I was writing on drugs and alcohol. This was by far one of the most interesting books on the topic of drugs/alcohol, addiction etc. A great read for anyone.

Check out the full description click the amazon links below.

Amazon (Canada) – https://amzn.to/2EjCCsx

Amazon (US) – https://amzn.to/2NiHpxA

From Amazon: There is a host of questions to be considered. Among ­them:
• What are the causes of ­addictions?
• What is the nature of the ­addiction-­prone ­personality?
• What happens physiologically in the brains of addicted ­people?
• How much choice does the addict really ­have?
• Why is the “War on Drugs” a failure and what might be a humane, ­evidence-­based approach to the treatment of severe drug ­addiction?
• What are some of the paths for redeeming addicted minds not dependent on powerful ­substances–­that is, how do we approach the healing of the many behaviour addictions fostered by our ­culture?

Brett’s Picks – Parenting

In my talk called Parenting: Navigating Everything, I cover numerous topics in the realm of parenting such as parenting styles, time, communication, and discipline. The list below includes all the books I promote and I quote in the presentation. I will do other book lists for different topics like mental health, sex, and media etc but this one is my top picks for books on the greater concept of parenting. I have given you direct links to Amazon in Canada and the US after each book. You can find full descriptions on Amazon.

I would suggest having a parenting book on the go at all times whether its a physical book or a Kindle version. Read a chapter or even just 10 pages a day. You will easily then read around a book or 2 every month. I have put (faith-based) at the end of the book if the author has faith-based content in the book. If you want to be a better parents pick up a few books to help you in this area.

  1. The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups – Leonard Sax (Canada) (US)
  2. Trophy Child: Saving Parents from Performance, Preparing Children for Something Greater Than Themselves – Ted Cunningham (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  3. Hold On to Your Kids: Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers – Gorden Neufeld & Gabor Maté (Canada) (US)
  4. 12 Huge Mistakes Parents Can Avoid: Leading Your Kids to Succeed in Life – Tim Elmore (Canada) (US)
  5. How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success – Julie Lythcott-Haims (Canada) (US)
  6. Revolutionary Parenting: What the Research Shows Really Works – George Barna (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  7. The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids – Madaline Levine (Canada) (US)
  8. Dr. Karyn’s Guide To The Teen Years: Understanding and Parenting Your Teenagers – Karyn Gordon (Canada) (US)
  9. Free-Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) – Lenore Skenazy (Canada) (US)
  10. Under Pressure: Putting the Child Back in Childhood – Carl Honoré (Canada) (US)
  11. Parenting Beyond Your Capacity: Connecting Your Family to a Wider Community – Reggie Joiner & Carey Nieuwhof (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
  12. The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed – Jessica Lahey (Canada) (US)
  13. The Grown Ups Guide to Teenage Humans: How to Decode Their Behavior, Develop Unshakable Trust, and Raise a Respectable Adult – Josh Shipp (Canada) (US)
  14. The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact – Chip and Dan Heath (Canada) (US)
  15. The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively – Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell (Canada) (US)
  16. The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively – Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell (Canada) (US)
  17. Secrets of Discipline: 12 Keys for raising responsible children – Ronald. G. Morrish (Canada) (US)

These are all books that I have read and I found very helpful in my own parenting, as well as I use their content in my talks. If there are any great books you think I am missing please send them to me. This list will grow over time.

Disclaimer: This blog contains affiliate links to Amazon which means if you click on the book link, and purchase a book, I will receive a small commission from Amazon. Any of these commissions go straight back into the work that I do. Thanks for your support!

The Power of Moments: transitions, milestones, and pits

I love this quote from the book “The Power of Moments’ by Chip and Dan Heath.

“Transitions should be marked, milestones commemorated, and pits filled. That’s the essence of thinking in moments. To be clear, not all defining moments fit into these three categories. Many defining moments could happen anytime.”

It is the idea that big days are big deals. So how are you marking these moments in your home with your family?

So what do you do with these things? Anything you want. Maybe dinner out, a special meal at home, a family hike, go to the movies, a unique dessert or coffee shop etc. The idea is simply that you are just celebrating or acknowledge that something is going on.
Don’t miss these moments in the lives of your kids. Love to hear how you celebrate these moments.