Brett.Ullman

The Most Underused Medication for Mental Health

Today I want to talk about the most underused medication for mental health struggles: Exercise.

Now, please listen clearly I am not saying to stop seeing your doctors, psychologists psychiatrist, and other specialists who are helping you on this journey. In the blog Everyday Health they say:

“Exercise won’t cure anxiety or depression, but the physical and psychological benefits can improve the symptoms,” explains Sally R. Connolly, LCSW, a therapist at the Couples Clinic of Louisville in Kentucky. “Research shows that at least 30 minutes of exercise three to five days a week can significantly make a difference.” Some studies have suggested that regular exercise can help alleviate anxiety as much as anxiety medications, and the anxiety-relieving effects of exercise may last longer than those of drugs.”

Love to hear your thoughts on mental health and exercise. 

Are you listening to your kids? Are you a safe parent?

Some questions for you as a parent:
Have you created a safe home environment for your kids? A place where they can share about any struggle they are going through?
Are you actually listening?

I find often kids say one of 2 things:

  1. They do not feel like they are able to share their struggles with their parents
  2. They shared their struggles and their parents did not really listen to them
    We often need to work on better communication skills.

10 Red Flags in Dating Relationships you should NEVER ignore

This is a REALLY important question we need to address in dating relationships.
What are Red Flags in Dating?
We as parents also have to help equip and empower our kids in these conversations.
These are things you want to address before you get deep into a relationship, engaged, or even married.
This video is coming from a Christian Worldview but can be used for anyone in a relationship. These things are pretty universal for all people.

Love to hear other “Red Flags” that I missed in this video. Just leave them in the comments here or on social media. thanks

#GivingTuesday – Need help with 1 project (Parenting Book)

I am honoured to have had ongoing opportunities to speak across Canada and the US for the last 23 years on topics like mental health, media, sexuality, pornography, dating, men, parenting, and others. Thank you so much to the hundreds of people who have supported us both financially and with prayer over the past 20 years. I could never have dreamed up how far this ministry has come since first starting out.

The favourite parts of my job are researching, creating presentations, and then delivering those presentations in order to challenge people to connect their ancient faith with this modern world. I want to encourage my listeners to “enter the danger” on topics that may be difficult to work through. In these confusing times, we need perspectives and intelligent insights into current matters more than ever.

One of my least favourite things I need to do is fundraising. One of the least liked, shared or commented on posts that I put on social media are about fundraising. The hard part with this is that for a non-profit organization like Worlds Apart, fundraising is necessary for our functioning.  As a small charity, our funds come in from 3 sources

40% – speaking engagement honorariums
40% – tax receiptable donations/fundraising
20% – sales of books, DVD’s, digital downloads

Presently, there is 1 major project that I can use your help with: About a year ago I brought out a brand new talk for Parents called Parenting: Navigating Everything. I have also been writing a book for parents that will cover all aspects of parenting in this modern culture we live in today. While I am finishing the writing of the parent’s book I have an editor presently starting to edit the completed chapters. Once all the editing is complete we head to typesetting and then printing. My goal is to have the book out in mid-2019. To get this done I could really use your support. This is not a normal book. In the end, it will be about 250,000 words and be more of a handbook for Christian Parents on the following topics:

  • Mental Health
  • Sexuality
  • Dating
  • Pornography
  • Family Discipleship
  • Spiritual Disciplines (Practices)
  • Media
  • Engaging Culture
  • Finances
  • Education
    etc

There are also new areas which are larger foundations of parenting:

  • parenting styles
  • communication
  • discipline
  • time and presence

Where we stand presently with this project:


• Research $3000 – $500 needed ($2500 funded)

• Publishing $1000 – funded

• Editing / Typesetting $9000 – needed

• Graphics $1000 – funded

• Printing books $8000 – needed

Fundraising needs – $17,500

This is not an enormous amount of money but for a small charity like ours, it seems pretty overwhelming. Whether you can give a little or a lot thanks for considering this project.

How to Donate:

To donate online please do this through our link on Canada Helps – click here

Or to donate by mail please make your cheque payable to “Worlds Apart” and address it to:

Worlds Apart, 68 Ashbury Blvd, Ajax, Ontario, L1Z 1M8

If you have any questions please contact me through social media or email me at 
brett@brettullman.com.

I Survived “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”

Really interesting conversation on a book from almost 20 years ago that was very popular in the Christian Church world.

In 1997, a 21-year-old Christian single released a revolutionary book on dating. The book became an international bestseller and catapulted its unsuspecting author, Joshua Harris, into the Christian spotlight. I Kissed Dating Goodbye effectively “turned the Christian singles scene upside down” and continues to shape the consciousness of how Christians view singleness, dating, and the roadmap to marriage.

Through the connective platform of social media, Harris has been dealt a battering of online criticism from disenchanted Christians in recent years. Some have lashed out at Harris directly for I Kissed Dating Goodbye, and a few have set up websites dedicated to his victims. Many online have called for Harris to apologize for what they believe was hurtful teaching. Meanwhile, others applaud his work and encourage him to stand his ground Some credit their marriage to principles they say they gleaned from his book, and indicate they plan to teach their children the same. Harris has felt pressure from all sides to do or say something.

In this documentary, we’ll see Joshua Harris ready to re-examine I Kissed Dating Goodbye – and its impact – some 20 years later.

Click here to watch this documentary.

There is a great blog on this from Tim Challies as well – Click here for his blog.

Dating from a Christian Worldview: Can I date a non-Christian?

This short video gives a simple answer to this question. I think we really overcomplicate this conversation and forget to look at the practical realities of how the future might be with people of different religions in one home. This should be one of many questions you look at while you are dating.

Here is a list of 80 more questions here – https://www.brettullman.com/80-questions-go-dating/