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The Most Underused Medication for Mental Health

Today I want to talk about the most underused medication for mental health struggles: Exercise.

Now, please listen clearly I am not saying to stop seeing your doctors, psychologists psychiatrist, and other specialists who are helping you on this journey. In the blog Everyday Health they say:

“Exercise won’t cure anxiety or depression, but the physical and psychological benefits can improve the symptoms,” explains Sally R. Connolly, LCSW, a therapist at the Couples Clinic of Louisville in Kentucky. “Research shows that at least 30 minutes of exercise three to five days a week can significantly make a difference.” Some studies have suggested that regular exercise can help alleviate anxiety as much as anxiety medications, and the anxiety-relieving effects of exercise may last longer than those of drugs.”

Love to hear your thoughts on mental health and exercise. 

Are you listening to your kids? Are you a safe parent?

Some questions for you as a parent:
Have you created a safe home environment for your kids? A place where they can share about any struggle they are going through?
Are you actually listening?

I find often kids say one of 2 things:

  1. They do not feel like they are able to share their struggles with their parents
  2. They shared their struggles and their parents did not really listen to them
    We often need to work on better communication skills.

Parenting: What age should our kids start to date?

I often get asked questions about dating from parents. In this video, I want to answer the question: When should I start dating? Helping parents equip their kids for dating (Christian Worldview)

I do have an entire presentation called dating for life that you could watch with your kids or just watch yourself to give you a better understanding of how to help your kids.

You can buy or rent a copy here – https://vimeo.com/ondemand/datingforlife

A New Narrative: Talking to your teens about technology: Vlog 5 of 5: Video Games

This is Part 5 of a 5 part video blog (vlog) series where we will be looking at trying to change the narrative of how we speak to our kids about technology. We will look at current ways parents talk to teens about tech and then look at a new narrative that teens will respond to better. We need to move from telling to teaching. Today we look at a new way to talk to our kids around the conversations on Video games.

Four Parenting Strategies for Leading Generation Z

How we are as parents has SUCH an impact on how our kids view the world.

I have written for years about “paranoid parenting styles” that prevail today. It is a well-intentioned approach that’s damaging to children. It’s based on the belief that our world has become very unsafe for children and kids should spend every waking hour under adult supervision. This paradigm emerged in the early 1980s, when John Walsh began devoting his life to make sure no family had to endure what he and his wife did, after their six-year-old son, Adam, was abducted and murdered in Florida. It was from this incident that the Adam Walsh Child Resource Center launched and persuaded congress to create the National Center for Missing or Exploited Children. Walsh also was instrumental in launching the true-crime TV show, America’s Most Wanted, as well as a movie about his son’s life. By the mid-80s, photos of missing children appeared on milk cartons and several other public places across the U.S.

All of these were positive initiatives, but the negative, unintended consequence has been enormous. From this decade, adults began to believe our world was less safe than ever—and kids needed oversight or direction at all times. So many began over-parenting their children (even teens) becoming “helicopter parents” and “karaoke parents” (who wanted to act like their kids) and “lawnmower parents” who mowed down anything or anyone in the way of their kids’ success.

What Was the Unintended Result?
As kids became a more visual priority in our culture, societal shifts began happening.

Let me explain the outcomes from decades of research on this parenting style:

  1. Kids began feeling entitled to special perks because we said, “They’re special.”
  2. Kids began to feel unsafe, afraid and even paranoid because of their parent’s behavior.
  3. Kids began believing they were fragile and could not handle adversity.
  4. Kids began embracing the narrative that the world is full of evil people who could harm them.

Please take a few minutes to read through this entire article.

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