Failure to Launch: research on a growing population of young adults.
For the past 15 years, I have had more and more parents after my talks frustrated and feeling hopeless with their young adult who seems to be failing to launch into a more independent life. They often use the terminology of failure to launch. This conversation has so much nuance, but I wanted to start some research on this.
The narrative is often very similar. 18-30-year-old son, lives in parents’ basement, plays videos games most of their life, works a few shifts a week, has no future plans, dropped out of any post-secondary education, smokes weed daily, very few friends, is single, and an overwhelming lack of purpose to name a few things.
I would love to hear any thoughts, resources, podcasts, or books on this topic as I begin to put it all together for a youtube video.
I am going to post all of my research along the way. The first book I am reading on this topic is:
Book: Failure to Launch
Author: Mark McConville
Amazon: https://amzn.to/3IV2s7p
Society tells boys an treats them as defective from age 3. Rational thinking boys and men won’t play or even show up to a game rigged against them.
Failure to launch is about placing the burden on men that is not placed on women, men know this and have a lifetime of seeing only males criticized.
Society’s expectations that a man has to be able to support a wife and kids, without an equal expectation on women is the problem.
Find twenty news articles telling women to step up, be better, be responsible for a man’s safety, be forgiving, let a man have multiple ways to avoid responsibility and then we can have a real honest discussion.
Let the news have this path when a man may have done wrong, 1) he was depressed, 2) he was anxiety, 3) he wad postpartum, 4) he was in an abusive relationship, 5) his partner was controlling, 6) he had a mental breakdown, 7) he was a victim of child trauma, 8) his partner was pregnant and he was depressed, 9) he was reaped by a 35 year old teacher when he was 12
Versus the 1) he is guilty before trial and should be in jail for life.
Get to this part and we can have a rational conservation.