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Jefferson Bethke: Porn and Technology

Great talk from Jefferson Bethke at Q Ideas

Research suggests that pornography is a “new narcotic” with equally powerful effects on the brain as addictive drugs. In a globalized world, how can we overcome the temptations and tragedies of technology? Jefferson Bethke believes the answer lies within the problem. The voice of the viral YouTube video “Why I Love Jesus but Hate Religion,” Jeff uses the internet as a positive means of confession and expression. His challenging talk will address a serious issue in today’s society.

Click here or the screenshot below to watch the video.

How Popular Music’s Lyrics Perpetuate American Idiocy

wow, powerful thoughts. What do you think?

So how did this happen and why is it getting even worse? For the sake of brevity, this is a systemic issue being reinforced across the board by pandemic anti-intellectualism. Some have argued there is no harm in a bit of mindless distraction, but this is incontrovertibly false. When just six corporations control 90% of the media, and 80% of radio stations have identical playlists, mindless content isn’t a choice — it’s a virtual mandate. In this self-propelled cycle of banality, the conglomerates dictate content to be promoted by radio, which in turn pushes it endlessly, creating a false perception that what is being played is due to listener demand. But this insidious marketing ploy is more akin to kidnapping and is every bit as dangerous.

There is a dearth in music options over the airwaves, so when vacuous lyrics are foisted on listeners, they become captives under duress. It is scientifically proven that flexing the intellect can slow cognitive decline, but there has been a cultural shift away from stimulating thought in favor of homogenization and living for the moment, and empty radio content is both symptom and reinforcement of that trend. Society is focused on entertainment, materialism, and self-promotion, and when coupled with a need for instant gratification, it’s really no wonder we’re in such a sorry state. Occasional forays into mindless distraction would be understandable and harmless if they were just forays, but the foundation is faulty due to a sharp decline in quality education at every level.

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Porn Project – Conclusion of the talk: Quote

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This is the quote I am using as the conclusion of the Porn Project talk.
Thought I would share it with you. I LOVE this.
Will you walk down another street?

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.

― Portia Nelson, There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk
The Romance of Self-Discovery

Internet Accountability: Covenant Eyes

One of the things that is a pillar of dealing with pornography addiction is the concept of accountability. One of the best resources I have found on this is a e-book from Covenant Eyes. Click here for the link for the ebook. Please take the time to download and read the e-book. Great practical material here.

In Coming Clean you’ll learn about:

  • What to look for in a good accountability partner
  • The biblical building blocks of accountability
  • How to hold each other accountable to both actions and heart-level motivations
  • Five reasons why accountability typically fails
  • Whether a spouse makes a good accountability partner
  • Good discussion questions for accountability partners

Personally I have been using CovenantEyes for my own personal accountability as well as for my family. I have one account set up for my own computers. When I travel and and am in hotels across Canada I have 4 people (including my wife) who get an email with any questionable sites that I visit. I have another account setup for the computer my kids use. My wife and I get an email each week with any questionable sites my kids might have visited.

I liked both of the banners below as they show that this is not just a male issue but something women struggle with as well.

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As with all filters and accountability software they have partner programs. It means if you order Covenant Eyes through the links from either banner above a small amount comes back to our charity and the work we do. The cost is the same to you but helps us out as well.

13 Things to Remember If You Love A Person With Anxiety

These are some great thoughts for everyone.

Anxiety is tough, isn’t it? Not just for the people that have it, but for you – the people that stick with them – while they’re going through it. It’s emotionally taxing on both ends, it’s physically demanding at times, and of course mentally demanding most of the time.

Plans have to be changed to accommodate the anxiety. Situations have to be avoided at times. Planning has to be just that bit more thorough. Emotional needs can change daily. It’s a lot to work through, and it can be hard to get in their head to understand on top of that.

It’s understandably confusing at times, so consider this your cheat sheet. 13 things for you to remember when loving someone with anxiety.

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