Declining Student Resilience: A Serious Problem for Colleges


Some great thoughts on the idea of resiliency and college students. Note: For those of us in Canada College in the United States means both University and College for us up north.

Students are increasingly seeking help for, and apparently having emotional crises over, problems of everyday life.

I have done a considerable amount of reading and research in recent months on the topic of resilience in college students. Our students are no different from what is being reported across the country on the state of late adolescence/early adulthood. There has been an increase in diagnosable mental health problems, but there has also been a decrease in the ability of many young people to manage the everyday bumps in the road of life. Whether we want it or not, these students are bringing their struggles to their teachers and others on campus who deal with students on a day-to-day basis. The lack of resilience is interfering with the academic mission of the University and is thwarting the emotional and personal development of students.

I am seeing the same loss of resiliency in High School Students as well as Elementary Students. Love to hear peoples thoughts on this.

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The problem with Halloween


Some great thoughts from Jon Acuff on culture.

The problem with this principle is that a lot of times we parents give pop culture a huge head start with our kids.

Here’s the truth though:

It’s not whether your kids will have a conversation about the world they live in, it’s whether you’ll have a voice in it.

It’s time to start talking with our kids.

Earlier than we want.

More often than we like.

Don’t give the world a head start with your kids.

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#Being13: Inside the Secret World of Teens


CNN aired a TV special last night called #BeingThirteen. Incredible look into the lives of 200 eight graders from across the US.

This is the first large scale study to analyze what kids actually say to each other on social media and why it matters so deeply to them.

I would encourage parents and leaders to watch all of this material (there is some language)

“I would rather not eat for a week than get my phone taken away. It’s really bad,” said Gia, a13-year-old. “I literally feel like I’m going to die.”

“When I get my phone taken away, I feel kind of naked,” said Kyla, another 13-year-old. “I do feel kind of empty without my phone.”

Click here to be taken to the article. Many more links you can find on this website.


The Survey Project: Canadian Christian Stats (pornography)

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3 Years ago at a Leadership event the speaker told us to write down our BHAG (our big hairy audacious goal). Mine was to create a site which would poll Canadians and help us create some statistics from our faith based communities across Canada. Something that has always been hard to find in Canada is statistics on the Canadian Faith Based Communities (Catholic, Protestant & Orthodox Christians).

I am excited to announce that our new Worlds Apart Stats site is now up and running.

We have created a section of our website which will begin polling people on different topics (pornography, faith, sex etc). The first topic is going to be pornography. Anybody can click on the site and fill in the answers to the 14 questions. There is NO DATA on your name, location etc that is kept. Just the data from the 14 questions.

So what is the goal of the site?

  1. To see how pornography is affecting us by age, denomination, gender etc
  2. As leaders once we see where and how people are struggling with a topic like pornography we can then look at how we can affectively combat this struggle in our own congregations, denominations, youth groups etc.

After a certain number of people have completed the poll we will add to the site some graphs with current statistics of some of the 14 questions in the poll.

I would appreciate if you could take the 2-3 minutes to complete the poll and share this around to people of all ages in our Christian Community.

Thanks for your help.

You can find the poll at our new Worlds Apart site (Click Here!)

Interested in Polling your own Church? For only $20 I can set up a specific account inside our system just for your group. You would get a link to share around and a password to view all of your statistics. This is presently not linked on the site but something I can do if anyone is interested. Just email me.


9 Signs You Are Burnt-Out


It does not matter where I go these days I seem to find many people on the edge of burnout or breakdown. Good article to think about this topic.

So how do you know if you’re heading for burnout?

Here are nine things I personally experienced as I burned out.

I hope they can help you see the edge before you careen past it:

1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vaporized or become self-centered.

2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’—you no longer feel the highs or the lows. This was actually one of the earliest signs for me that the edge was near. I wrote more about emotional numbness here.

3. People drain you. Of course, there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.

4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.

5. You’re becoming cynical. Many leaders fight this one, but cynicism rarely finds a home in a healthy heart.

6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you five minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.

7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.

8. You don’t laugh anymore. Nothing seems fun or funny, and, at its worst, you begin to resent people who enjoy life.

9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you. Sometimes you’re not burnt out; you’re just tired. A good night’s sleep or a week or two off will help most healthy people bounce back with fresh energy. But you could have a month off when you’re burnt out and not feel any difference. I took three weeks off during my summer of burn out, and I felt worse at the end than when I started. Not being refueled when you take time off is a major warning sign you’re burning out.

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