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A lawyer rewrote Instagram’s terms of use ‘in plain English’ so kids would know their privacy rights

Great article I read this morning. I think it needs to be explained to not just kids but to people of ALL ages.

Other complex paragraphs were similarly condensed to sentences that were easier to digest:

  • “Don’t bully anyone or post anything horrible about people.”
  • “Officially you own any original pictures and videos you post, but we are allowed to use them, and we can let others use them as well, anywhere around the world. Other people might pay us to use them and we will not pay you for that.”
  • “Although you are responsible for the information you put on Instagram, we may keep, use and share your personal information with companies connected with Instagram. This information includes your name, email address, school, where you live, pictures, phone number, your likes and dislikes, where you go, who your friends are, how often you use Instagram, and any other personal information we find such as your birthday or who you are chatting with, including in private messages (DMs).”

To read this entire article please click here.

Alberta Tour!

Hi Everyone,

I hope you all had a great Christmas and New Years. If you live in Alberta I will be out your way for an entire week in Jan. Below are the speaking dates, locations, times and which talks I will be doing. Love to have you out.

Date: Saturday Jan 14th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Falconridge Family Church(155 Falconridge Cres. N.E. Calgary, AB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Afternoon Session: 3-4pm (Walking Wounded)
Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
This evening talk is not part of the Equipping Conference and all Parents are welcome.

Date: Sunday Jan 15th (World Vision Sponsored service)
Location: Falconridge Family Church(155 Falconridge Cres. N.E. Calgary, AB)
Sunday Service – 10am (media.faith.culture talk for parents and students)

Date: Monday Jan 16th
Location – St Joseph School (3804 47 St, Whitecourt, AB)
1:40 pm Walking Wounded talk
Location: Whitecourt Baptist Church (6240 47 ST, Whitecourt, AB)
7pm Walking Wounded talk

Date: Tuesday Jan 17th
Location: Mill Woods Assembly (2225 66 St NW, Edmonton)
6:30 media.faith.culture (students and parents)

Date: Wednesday Jan 18th
Location: Mill Woods Assembly (2225 66 St NW, Edmonton)
Men’s Wing Night
7PM The Man Talk (to register)

Date: Thursday Jan 19th
Location: Bethel Church (5410  53 Ave. Barrhead, AB)
7pm The Man Talk

Date: Friday Jan 20th 
Location: McKenzie Towne Church (7 Mckenzie Towne Gate SE)
7pm The Porn Project (Parents, leaders)

Date: Sat. Jan 21st 
LocationRichmond Hill Baptist Church (7251 Sierra Morena Blvd. SW)
CYW Fuel: Calgary
Walking Wounded & The Porn Project

If you are around please come out to these events. For both the Equipping Conference and the CYW Fuel Conference you will need to get tickets. If you have any questions please just send me an email or a message.

Tattoos: What’s your Story?

For over 15 years when I am with someone who has a tattoo I love to ask people the story behind their ink. It is fascinating to hear the answers.

I remember being in line at the grocery store and behind me was a tough looking guy. He was my height., very muscular and had a ton of tattoos and piercings. The one that stuck out to me was a tattoo of a hand coming out of his shirt and then the fingers were grasping around his throat. I turned to him and asked about his tattoo. He told me that he struggles with anxiety/depression and the tattoo represents the choke hold it has on his life. Wow!

Are you willing to share your tattoo story?

What does it mean to you?

I would LOVE for you to post a picture of your tattoo and then explain why you got it.

 

Music Video: Lukas Graham – 7 Years

I watched Lukas sing this on New Years Eve. Thought it would be good to share it. Powerful song!

Lyrics:
Once I was seven years old my mama told me,
Go make yourself some friends or you’ll be lonely
Once I was seven years old

It was a big, big world but we thought we were bigger
Pushing each other to the limits, we were learning quicker
By eleven smoking herb and drinking burning liquor
Never rich so we were out to make that steady figure

Once I was eleven years old my daddy told me,
Go get yourself a wife or you’ll be lonely
Once I was eleven years old

I always had that dream like my daddy before me
So I started writing songs, I started writing stories
Something about that glory just always seemed to bore me
‘Cause only those I really love will ever really know me

Once I was twenty years old my story got told
Before the morning sun when life was lonely
Once I was twenty years old

I only see my goals I don’t believe in failure
‘Cause I know the smallest voices they can make it major
I got my boys with me, at least those in favor
And if we don’t meet before I leave I hope I’ll see you later

Once I was twenty years old my story got told
I waswriting ’bout everything I saw before me
Once I was twenty years old

Soon we’ll be thirty years old, our songs have been sold
We’vetraveled around the world and we’re still roaming
Soon we’ll be thirty years old

I’m still learning about life, my woman brought children for me
So I can sing them all my songs and I can tell them stories
Most of my boys are with me, some are still out seeking glory
And some I had to leave behind, my brother I’m still sorry

Soon I’ll be sixty years old, my daddy got sixty-one
Remember life and then your life becomes a better one
I made a man so happy when I wrote a letter once
I hope my children come and visit once or twice a month

Soon I’ll be sixty years old, will I think the world is cold
Or will I have a lot of children who can warm me
Soon I’ll be sixty years old

Update: Case for the Porn Project Filming

I hope everyone had a great Christmas. As we head towards New Years there are a few more days to give donations to get a tax receipt for 2016.  Here is an update on our on fundraising to film the porn project

I would like to film the.Porn.Project which will cost ~$9,000

$4,500 for filming and editing of the talk. It is the editing of the talk that is so time consuming as we need to incorporate a professionally designed Keynote presentation throughout the filmed talk. It gives people the same experience as if I was speaking live at their church or school.
$1,500 — Trailer for promotion
$1,500 — Creating Master copy of DVD, Creation of Graphics for DVD jacket and cover.
$1,500 — printing of 1000 DVD’s. The Talk is also put online on VimeoOnDemand.com and on Rightnowmedia.org
Total funds – $9,000 (Presently Raised $7800)

Needed $1200

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It was 1996 I did my first talk at a church in Pickering to a room full of high school students. talking about music & media and how our faith plays a role in this. 10 years later I found my self speaking 45 times per year while still teaching full time with the Toronto District School Board. I left teaching that year and have been speaking full time with Worlds Apart since then.

In his book Holy Discontent Bill Hybels talks about finding out what your Holy Discontent (those things that continuously bother you) are and to walk into that space. That has been the theme for all of my talks for 19 years. Every few years I would add a talk (Self Harm, dating, men, sex, mental health) most recently pornography.

Last year we had the chance to film The Sex Talk which helps to empower and equip parents to help their kids get a Biblical worldview of healthy sexuality.

This year we are looking at filming a new talk I have created called the.Porn.Project

The Why: Present day statistics say that 50-60% of Christian Men and 20% of Christian Women are addicted to Porn. I have received emails from students as young as grade 5 and adults in their 90’s talking about struggles with pornography. We cannot continue to be silent in these issues of sexuality and in this case we need to deal directly with the issue of pornography.

The How: the.Porn.Project helps lay the foundation and equips & empowers people in this discussion. It goes through all of the areas we need to talk about to begin this conversation in our homes, churches and youth groups. It looks at theology, accountability, addiction, environmental changes, dating, our witness and others. We must break the cycle of failure by addressing head on this conversations.

The Goal: The goal of this project is that through this talk it will help create a culture where Christian parents and their teenagers are equipped and empowered to deal with the sexualized culture we live in and not get sucked into the cycles of addiction so many Christians seem to find themselves in. The goal is to have a Biblical yet practical response to this issue.

“I think the biggest reason why this talk is important, is because it’s not happening elsewhere. Save for a couple groups like xxxchurch and pure eyes, the biggest mention that it gets from the pulpit is “it’s a dirty secret that the church doesn’t talk about”… And that’s all they say, no one talks about it, and it’s a MASSIVE problem, not just for teens, for many men leading our churches today.”
Chris Burke, Center Point Church, PEI

“How do I teach my congregation about pornography when I have been addicted since I was in my 20’s?”
Pastor in Ontario

— “Help me… please. I am drowning in my porn addiction.”
Teenager in Alberta

As a speaker I am able to speak about 150 times a year. I am unable to speak at every church and school in the country. My talk The Wounding Embrace (mental health) is being used in churches from California to England, from Vancouver to St. Johns. I receive emails from people using the DVD or Digital download to help equip people in their churches to help people with mental health struggles. This is the same I want to do with the.Porn.Project.

 

We find as a small non for profit it is hard to raise funds. We are cut out of applying for most grants from foundations as we don’t reach their $250k minimum income. As a charity that has been around for almost 19 years we are not looking at raising funds for day to day operations but raising the funds specifically for this project. I presently speak over 100-150 talks a year that pay for all of the overhead costs of running Worlds Apart (office, equipment, salary etc.)

If you would like to chat more, please contact me at the email below. If you would like to make a donation please follow this link – https://www.canadahelps.org/dn/15850

Thanks for your consideration.
Brett Ullman Executive Director: Worlds Apart (worldsapart.org, brettullman.com)
brett@brettullman.com
905.626.4297

Friday Rant: Last day this will be available? Really?

So I sit down this morning and and look through my inbox to see what is going on . Today I find email after email all saying similar things:
  • “Last day to sign up for my course!”
  • “Running out of space for our webinar. Sign up today!”
  • “Last day my book will be available before it is being pulled off the shelves”
  • “We closed out doors to our enrolment to my best selling _______. But decided for those who missed it to open it up for 24 more hours”
  • “Last day for the bonus’ for my book”
  • “After today this course will not be available publicly until 2017” 
These are all people offering books, courses etc in our Christian world. Is it just me or are we trying way to hard to scare people into buying our stuff. If I am car shopping and the salesperson says “The sale is only on today” they I say “well I better go then because I am not ready to buy today“. Guess what? They never let you leave. They say will there will be another sale or the promotion can be continued etc. There is always a sale, discount or promotion. I don’t mind the sale. I am getting tired of the scare tactics to get me to buy something. 
Thoughts:
  1. Why would anyone take their book off the market? You spent years writing a book. You are really going to stop selling it?
  2. If you have a book and I miss out on the “bonus material” I begin to question if your book is still worth buying. If the content in your bonus material is so amazing why is it not in your book? What am I missing out on?
  3. I get that someone might have an online course and there has to be a cut off date for it. Please don’t make it sound like you will not be offering that course ever again.
  4. For the email today that said that the course will not be offered publicly again until 2017. 2017 is about 2 weeks away. So if I don’t buy into your product today I might have to wait 2 weeks to get it?
  5. For the webinar that is running out of space. The email said you have 12,000 people signed up. 12,000 people. If your webinar platform can handle 12,000 people please don’t tell me you are running out of space. Pretty sure that is not true.
Can I just challenge authors, creators of products and leaders: Sell your stuff.
I buy your books, courses, products etc. But can you please stop threatening me with not letting me buy your stuff unless I buy it today.
Am I alone in this. Love to hear your thoughts.
Back to my emails.

The Anti-Social Network – Short Film

Are we losing the ability to have basic connections with each other? Really good short film about social media. And yes I see the irony that I am posting this on my blog and then on social media sites. I am not for not using social media. There just must be a balance. When do you turn off your phone? When you are with others are you present with them or still on your phone?

“I’m right in front of you”

The Anti-Social Network is a comedic short film about a social media addict named Lucas (played by Sam Mac). He is so consumed, the boundaries between his real life and his virtual reality are obsolete. A chance meeting with a girl named Leila (played by Shae-Lee Shackleford) forces him to come to grips with the ultimate paradox.

The Anti-Social Network was written, directed and produced by Shae-Lee Shackleford. She created the film to be a humorous observation of the social media driven world we live in. The film is aimed to ‘poke’ fun at is the obsession we have with online interaction, sometimes to the detriment of our real everyday lives and relationships

Common Sense Media Census Measures Plugged-In Parents

As someone who speaks to parents on media I often hear parents talking about how much screen time their kids are having. I love that this article switches this question and asks how much screen time are parents having? It is tough to tell your kids to get off their technology as you are using yours.

Everybody knows tweens and teens rack up lots of screen time. But what about parents? Common Sense Media’s new report, The Common Sense Census: Plugged-In Parents of Tweens and Teens, finally provides some answers. In collaboration with the Center on Media and Human Development at Northwestern University, we surveyed over 1,700 parents of children age 8 to 18 on their attitudes and concerns about their kids’ — and their own — media use. We hope that taking an honest look at how parents use media and tech, how they manage and monitor their kids, and how they talk to kids about media will help us all raise media-savvy kids and good digital citizens.

Click here for the entire article.

Modern Mix Tape: Day 6 – Bonus Day: Running Mix

When I was a teenager I made mixed tapes. I had them numbered and categorized and people would often have me copy my mixed tapes for them. 30+ years later I find playlists are the new mixtapes. So each day for the next 5 days I am going to post one of my favourite playlists. These playlists are my iTunes playlists using Apple Music. You should be able to click the link and save the playlists to your iTunes library. If you have Apple Music you will be able to play everything.

I will add the links to the playlists on each of the dates below:

  1. Thursday Dec 1Christmas Playlist – Click Here for the Mix (410 Christmas songs)
  2. Friday Dec 2Deep HouseClick Here for this mix. This is my current favourite genre of music. Turn it up and enjoy (82 songs)
  3. Monday Dec 5 – My Ultimate Party mix –Click Here for this mix.  These are my favourite songs throughout all my life. (472 songs)
  4. Tuesday Dec 6Click Here for this mix. Favourite 80’s Mix (188 songs)
  5. Wednesday Dec 7Clic here for this mix. Church: Praise and Worship Mix (191 songs)
  6. Thursday Dec 8thClick here for this mix. Running Mix (136 songs)

Please feel free to post any songs I am missing so I can add them to my list.

I hope you enjoy these songs I much as I do…