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“In all things love”

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“In the things we agree on Unity, in the things we disagree on Liberty, but in all things Love”

Can I just encourage people (speaking mostly to the Christian community) who are having discussions on the new Sex Education Curriculum to do so with respect, thoughtfulness and in all that we do …love.

If someone has a differing opinion than you on this topics it does not automatically mean that

  1. they are not a Christian
  2. they are (all pulled from blog comments on a number of sites today) stupid, ignorant, crazy, bull headed (my favourite), bad parents, crazy liberals,  …

It is really discouraging to see all of the vile comments all over social media as people are discussing something.

I wonder how many people will never set foot inside a church due to the comments they read.

I think the one really good thing in all of this discussion is it is forcing all of us parents to think through how we are talking about these topics with our kids in our own homes.

It is challenging the churches and youth workers to evaluate how we can come alongside parents and support then in these tough conversations.

Please remember in all things Love …

 

 

A Christian Parent’s Guide to Ontario’s New Sex Ed Curriculum.

A great article written on the new sex ed. curriculum. And to anyone who noticed this blog and the one I wrote (http://www.brettullman.com/christians-sex-education/) both have the same graphic but they are 2 different blogs.

So much great stuff here as he breaks down grade by grade these conversations.

The world is full of people who don’t share our worldview, but we do share this province with them. Let’s be winsome and thoughtful in our interactions with our neighbours, and let’s be proactive and educated in the education of our children. Once again, I hope and pray that this has been helpful in killing some myths and sparking healthy conversation.

Open DNS – Home Parental Controls

I often get asked if I use a filter on my home internet to block pornography. I do. I use Open DSN. It is a free product.

When you set up FamilyShield on your router, every device in your home gets protected. That means everything: your kids’ Xbox, Playstation, Wii, DS, iPad, and even their iPhone.

When Churches Want a Pastor Who Can “Bring In Young Families” . . .

Really interesting thoughts here.

So how can we be the kind of congregation that welcomes Young Families for more than their energy and wallets? We can:

  1. Be real. Deal with real issues in sermons, classes, retreats, conversations, prayers.
  2. Listen to parents’ concerns. Listen to children’s concerns.
  3. Ask how we can pray for them. And then pray for them.
  4. Allow/encourage messiness. Noses will run and squirming will ensue. There might be running. There will definitely be noise.
  5. Check our personal Stink Eye Quotient. Do we grimace when a baby cries? Do we frown when the kids are wearing soccer uniforms?
  6. Refrain from expecting everyone to be the church like we have always been the church.
  7. Help parents, grandparents, and all adults become equipped to minister to children and youth. How can we learn to offer such loving hospitality to the younger people in our midst that they will always experience church as home?
  8. Do not use children as cute props. Yes they say the darndest things during children’s stories, but they are not there to entertain us.
  9. Give parents a break. Really. Help struggling parents get coats and hats on their kids. Hold an umbrella. Assist in wiping spills.
  10. Give parents a break administratively. Make it easy to participate. Minimize the unnecessary.

Click here for the article or the screenshot below.

We Need your Help!

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We teach our kids to ask for help when they need it and as we watch our children mature we remind them, “If you ever need anything, just ask”. As adults, though, when we need help ourselves, we rarely ask for it. This is certainly true of me in my own life. For years people have said to me, “If you ever want to do something and cannot afford it, just ask”.

So let me be very clear: Now, I am asking. I really need your help. I have been the Executive Director of Worlds Apart since 1997. In fact, back in 2005 I left my teaching job to go into this ministry full-time. To this day my passion to see youth, parents and leaders connect their ancient faith with their modern world motivates me to find better ways to bridge this gap. Presently, there are 2 main projects that I can use your help with:

1. One of the largest questions students and parents email me about is the topic of sex. I have a talk called the.sex.talk, which is a large broad conversation on this topic. It is a very practical talk about creating a sexual ethic in our Christian lives. Basically how we connect our faith and our sexuality. It walks through topics like media, theology, consequences and other practical advice. The filming, editing and printing of this talk will cost approximately $11,000.

2. As a speaker I have noticed that there are very few statistics from a Canadian perspective. I would like to create a site to create some Canadian stats in our Christian community. Before I come to a speaking date I would be able to send a church a link to a list of questions. When I come to that church I would be able to leave them with a list of stats for their congregation dealing with issues from faith, mental health and other topics. It would help that church see where there might be some issues and then look at how they can program better for those areas. We could also offer the church some suggestions and resources to help with areas that people in the congregation might be struggling with. The cost for the create of the website, professional creation of questions and design is about $11,000.

We are also continue to look for 200 people who will support the work of Worlds Apart at $120 a year. This minimal donation runs at only $10 a month. I presently have the opportunity to speak across Canada to tens of thousands of students, parents and leaders each year.

I am asking you to consider financially supporting us as we pursue the initiatives above. Donations can be assigned to a specific project or simply directed to the charity for use where needed.

To donate online go to www.brettullman.com, click “Main Speaking Site” at the top, and choose the “Support” Tab on the right side of the website. Then click the CanadaHelps button.

To donate by mail please make your cheque payable to “Worlds Apart” and address them to:
Worlds Apart, 68 Ashbury Blvd, Ajax, Ontario, L1Z 1M8.

If you have any questions please contact me through social media or email me at brett@brettullman.com.

Thanks so much for your time,

Brett Ullman (www.brettullman.com)
Director
Worlds Apart

Canadian Truth.Teller: Leanne Cabral

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Hi, I am Leanne Cabral, a speaker who ignites and equips parents to make their invisible faith visible, so that they can intentionally point their kids to Jesus and build a legacy of faith.

My passion is equipping parents, helping them navigate this seemly huge assignment of passing faith onto their children. This passion grew out of my own journey as I sought to understand, on a really practical level, the task we as parents have been charged with; passing faith onto the next generation. You see, I come from a history of faith, I was raised on the mission field, my father was a pastor, I grew up in the church and I love Jesus, yet I felt overwhelmed by this assignment. I desperately wanted to do it well, but no one was telling me how. You see, I think we all understand passing our faith onto our kids in theory, but the “how” conversation, I was so hungry for, seemed to be missing.

I absolutely believe that parents desperately want to be all that God has called them to be. The truth is, Christian families are in crisis. The odds of our children walking with the Lord are not in our favour…It is reported that 80% of our kids walk away from faith at 18, and that there is less than 10% of faith talk in Christian homes outside of prayer. As parents, we understand passing faith to our kids in theory, but no one is breaking it down for us in a way that is tangible and practically applicable in our homes.

Though this journey began as a personal quest to better understand how to do/live this, it quickly became clear how desperate other families are for this information too. So with the Lord’s prompting, I have created a series of talks called Bringing Faith Home, to practically and tangibly equip parents to pass faith on to their children.

These talks set parents up with practical tools to pass faith on to the next 
generation. They are simple, applicable and absolutely do-able in a world where so many things are vying for our attention. It is my hope that after parents engage in these talks, they walk away empowered,, embraced, equipped and excited… understanding that this magnificent task, has been broken down into manageable bite size pieces. Our task as parents is to faithfully point our kids to Jesus; my passion is to equip them.

These talks have brought freedom, direction and intentionality to many families and I would love to share them with you and your faith community!

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I also have a talk called “Hearing God” –  “Be embraced by love, hope and direction, wherever you are on your journey, by learning to recognize God’s voice for yourself.”

For more information click here or click the screenshot below.

Anxiety and Depression Association of America

Amazing site filled with information, resources and Hope for those of us struggling with anxiety and depression.

From their “Living and Thriving” page under managing anxiety they list some great tips.

When you’re feeling anxious or stressed, these strategies will help you cope:

  • Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head.
  • Eat well-balanced meals. Do not skip any meals. Do keep healthful, energy-boosting snacks on hand.
  • Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks.
  • Get enough sleep. When stressed, your body needs additional sleep and rest.
  • Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health. Check out the fitness tips below.
  • Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly.
  • Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary.
  • Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn’t possible, be proud of however close you get.
  • Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?
  • Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.
  • Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
  • Get involved. Volunteer or find another way to be active in your community, which creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress.
  • Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify? Write in a journal when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, and look for a pattern.
  • Talk to someone. Tell friends and family you’re feeling overwhelmed, and let them know how they can help you. Talk to a physician or therapist for professional help.

Click here or the screen shot below for their website.