I am going to be taking a break from all Social Media including my blog. I think it is important to have some time during the year where I stop, reflect, and try and be present in my regular life by shutting down everything in my online world. I am going to be off blogging and all Social Media from Thursday Dec 18th, 2014 until Jan 1st, 2015.
Anyone want to join me in this break?
I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Pastors and other ministry leaders would benefit from asking and listening to these long-time members before they flee. This will require a change of habit. When it comes to listening, church leaders are too often in the habit of fawning over celebrity pastors for answers. It would be far more fruitful to take that time and spend it with real people nearby—existing members. Ask them some good questions, such as:
1. Why are you a part of this church?
2. What keeps you here?
3. Have you ever contemplated stepping away from church? Why or why not?
4. How would you describe your relationship with God right now?
5. How has your relationship with God changed over the past few years?
6. What effect, if any, has our church had on your relationship with God?
7. What would need to change here to help you grow more toward Jesus’ call to love God and love others?
It’s time to listen. Even as I’m writing this today, another high-capacity lay leader emailed me with his decision to leave his church. He’s done. Like many others I know, he’s also a nationally known Christian leader. But he’s done.
3 Times a year I am going to post a blog with an update to everything that has been going on at Worlds Apart the past 4 months. Welcome to the first update.
Here are some updates:
Blog: The blog at brettullman.com went lives a month or so ago and it has been amazing to see the response. Some days we are having over 300 people a day come to the site. Amazing. I am also really excited that I am able to share ongoing resources with people in this one location.
Health: This has been the busiest speaking season I have had since my breakdown. I have had 5 flights this fall (Halifax, Winnipeg and 3 trips to Alberta) as well as speaking dates throughout Ontario in schools, churches, camps and conferences. I am still struggling with my sleep and anxiety and recently was put on another sleeping pill to try and combat my fragmented sleep . The results were not what I was hoping and find myself more dizzy than before and had to be taken off of the med. Always frustrating times. I continue to speak through this ongoing journey of my breakdown and find people all around who are talking more about their stories of burnout, breakdown and suffering as I share about mine.
Walking Wounded DVD: The Walking Wounded talk is now available on DVD as well as rental and Digital Download. Really excited to be able to film this talk and get it out to people struggling. The trailer for this talk came out so good. Click here for the Trailer.
Truth Tellers: This fall I was also also to film and release a talk for people interested in speaking called Truth Tellers. It is basically everything I have learned in my 17-18 years as a speaker. Click here for the Truth Tellers talk.
Leanne Cabral: It is exciting to watch Leanne Cabral’s speaking dates start to roll in. Please check out here website for more information on the talks that she does. I think her talk on Blessing and Rites of Passage is one of the those paramount conversations most missing in the lives of our younger kids.
The.Sex.Talk: This Winter and Spring I am hoping to raise the money to film the talk that I do on sex called the.sex.talk. It will cost around $10,000. If you are able to help with this you can donate through Canada Helps (Click Here)
Prayers: I would also ask for your prayers as I begin a new project in 2015. At leadership events they often challenge people with the question of what is your BHAG: Big Hairy Audacious Goal. I have had one milling around in my head for years and this year is the year that I see if I can get it off the ground. Mine is based around trying to leverage the 50,000-70,000 people a year I speak too and start creating some statistics which we can use as leaders in our ministries. More information coming in the new year.
Donations: As always as a small charity we rely on donations for about 40% of our income. We started this year to try and find 100 people who would support us at $100 a year. This would not change your tithe to your church or affect your other givings but that small amount would help us in the work we do here at Worlds Apart. If you are able to help please click the Canada Helps site here
Speaking: If you are interested in bringing me in to speak to your students, parents or leaders please just send me a message and we can start that conversation.
Thanks so much for your ongoing prayers and support. If you have any questions please send me an email. If you want to come out to any future speaking dates please check out the Tour Dates section on brettullman.com
Another great resource for anyone who loves media is the Plugged In website. This website will give you a quick look at Movies, Music, TV and Video Games and let you be informed to make good choices in what media you consume.
You can also sign up for their “Culture Clips” email list which will bring great resources straight to your email. You can also “like” their social media pages.
On my blog I want to help parents with some of the best resources I know. I have weekly conversations with parents who mention that they are struggling with communication issues with their teenagers. I would highly encourage all parents to go to Dr. Karyn’s website. Go into her resources section and purchase her book (The Teen Years) and most importantly the Analyze your Teen digital download set. This is one of the best resources I have seen on this. Look at what is in these 4 module’s:
Module #1: Self-Esteem
Learn how you can build your child / teen’s confidence
Module #2: Communicating Effectively
Learn how to communicate effectively so that they listen to you
Module #3: Managing Emotions
Learn how to deal with emotions (stress, anxiety, depression)
Module #4: Teaching Responsibility
Learn why and how to set boundaries and teach responsibility
She also has great speaking events that I will be sending my own children in the upcoming years.