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The Secret Language of Girls on Instagram

Love to hear some responses from girls on this article is correct or not. I do like the last paragraph which says:

While girls may seem addicted to their online social lives, it’s not all bad — and they still prefer the company of an offline friend to any love they have to click for. (In a survey that would surely surprise some parents, 92% of teen girls said they would give up all of their social media friends if it meant keeping their best friend.) And, of course, likes aren’t everything. As 13 year-old Leah told me, “Just because people don’t write me a paragraph on Instagram doesn’t mean they don’t like me.”

Click this link for the article!

http://time.com/3559340/instagram-tween-girls/

4 Ways to Make the Stand-and-Greet More Personal

This is a great follow up article to the one I posted last week http://www.brettullman.com/church-stop-stand-greet-time/ which has had over 800 views this week. Tim Challies had some interesting thoughts:

Why are you part of a church community? Why are you a member of a church? Why do you go to the public gatherings of the church on Sunday morning? Broadly speaking, there can be two reasons: You go for the good of yourself, or you go for the good of others. There is a world of difference between the two.

http://www.churchleaders.com/outreach-missions/outreach-missions-articles/177148-tim-challies-ways-to-make-the-stand-and-greet-more-personal.html

An ‘epidemic’ of self-harm: Why are more Canadian youth hurting themselves?

Pajer said the type of person who self-harms now compared to 20 years ago has changed. She said she used to expect someone with severe mental health issues such as depression or psychosis. But it’s become far more common.

“More and more of the kids don’t have what we might call a severe mental illness or a severe substance use disorder but instead are really experiencing sort of a crisis of meaning in their lives or an inability to handle their negative emotions except by cutting,” Pajer said.

“My point is that a lot of these kids don’t fit into one of our neat diagnostic categories.”

She suggested kids need to be taught at an early age to deal with and learn from negative emotions.

http://globalnews.ca/news/1678914/an-epidemic-of-self-harm-why-are-more-canadian-youth-hurting-themselves/

One Hilarious Video Perfectly Sums Up a Big Problem With Western Humanitarianism

Wow. As someone who has been on 12 humanitarian trips this article asks some really thought provoking questions. I would push back on the comment about the “White Savior Industrial Complex”. This statement is really ignorant of the multicultural society we live in today in North America. Coming from Toronto we have every culture in the world in our city. I might instead call it the “Western Savior Industrial Complex”. Please take a few minutes to read this article.

The video, produced by the Norwegian Students’ and Academics’ International Assistance Fund (SAIH), is satire in the same vein as ‘Humanitarians of Tinder.’ It skewers the trend of “voluntourism,” where well-intentioned Westerners journey to distant places as volunteers with little regard for culture, history or the ethical challenges their presence brings into communities that aren’t their own.

There is nothing wrong with the humanitarian impulse. That those with the time and means choose to devote themselves to helping the less fortunate is noble and to be commended. But as the SAIH video shows, this aid often comes in the form of activities that make little difference or misunderstands the cultural context in which it operates.

http://mic.com/articles/103788/one-hilarious-video-perfectly-sums-up-a-big-problem-with-western-humanitarianism

The important thing about yelling

Great article for all of us to read.

Excessive phone use, commitment overload, multiple page to-do lists, and the pursuit of perfection consumed me. And yelling at the people I loved was a direct result of the loss of control I was feeling in my life.

Inevitably, I had to fall apart somewhere. So I fell apart behind closed doors in the company of the people who meant the most to me.

Some great practical advice

I said things like, “It’s just chocolate syrup. You can wipe it up, and the counter will be as good as new.”

(Instead of expelling an exasperated sigh and an eye roll for good measure.)

I offered to hold the broom while she swept up a sea of Cheerios that covered the floor.

(Instead of standing over her with a look of disapproval and utter annoyance.)

I helped her think through where she might have set down her glasses.

(Instead of shaming her for being so irresponsible.)

http://familyshare.com/Parenting/the-important-thing-about-yelling

Christians are not against sex education!

Sex Education As A Class Topic On Blackboard

Over the past month I have seen a steady stream of Facebook posts talking about the new Sex Education Curriculum that is being talked about for Ontario students. I scanned through my Facebook newsfeed over this past week and here are some of the themes and comments I saw:

  1. Overreaction. Tons of threats to pull their kids out of Ontario schools and either homeschool or send their kids to private schools. Also numerous threats to have their kids be “sick” on those days when sex is going to be talked about.
  2. I saw sensationalism and panic over miss-information. One mom talked about being sick that she thought her “Grade 3 daughter was going to be taught how to use a condom”. Another person was angry that she thought her Grade 2 was “going to be shown how to give oral sex”.
  3. I read a ton of condescending comments about teachers and other parents in Public School who do not come from the same Christian Worldview as the person who was telling their opinion.
  4. Shame (on parents who send their kids to sex education at public school) seemed to be a themes as well. Also a miss-guided view on all the other parents (not Christians) in public school that they all are want this “anything goes” sort of sex education. There are lots of GREAT parents that I know at my kids school who do not subscribe to the same Christian worldview that I do but are great parents and are walking through these tough topics just like parents who are Christians.

From what I read I would say that Christians are against ALL aspects of sex education. Out of the hundreds of comments I read there were only 5 that talked about not just being against all sex education but giving ideas or further discussion on how to talk about the topic of sex with our kids.

Lets look at this deeper … Read More

Should your Church stop having a stand and greet time?

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Wow. so interesting.

The surprise factor was the number one issue. Many first-time guests really don’t like the time of stand and greet one another that some churches have. According to the Twitter responses and comments on the post, many guests really don’t like it, so much so that they will not return.

click the link to read the entire article.

http://www.christianpost.com/news/should-your-church-stop-having-a-stand-and-greet-time-129441/