How Christians Ruin Dating

Good blog here.

If you’ve dated in the Christian circle for any length of time, you, too, probably have humorous stories as well as scars. As there’s no book in the Bible with a dating how-to, the “biblical dating” we strive for actually doesn’t exist—we’ve been left to our own devices to figure it out. And churches haven’t always done the best job helping us get there.

It’s OK to want a relationship. We’re created to be relational beings, after all. But when we, as individuals or as a church, are obsessed with romantic relationships, we miss out on so much more God offers us. We fixate on the idea of “knowing” so early on, we skip over the whole point of relationships—getting to know and connect with another human being. When we demand of a friend, “Do they love Jesus?!” after date one, we’re expecting people to have gotten incredibly intimate and vulnerable in the first 90 minutes of talking with someone. That’s typically not healthy.

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