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Is Masturbation a sin? Is it wrong? | Christian Worldview

I struggled with whether to vlog about this topic as it is one of those topics that we really don’t talk about in the church world. When we do talk about it, we often have differing opinions on this, and it just leads to unhealthy discourse. I think it is imperative that we address masturbation as it an issue that not only adults (men and women) but our children (again men and women) need to understand. We are ALL struggling with topics like masturbation, pornography, sex, etc in our modern sexualized culture today. Now, I need you to bear with me. This will be a little longer than my usual videos as we need to address this conversation in a context that is more than just a yes or no to masturbation.
This discussion is actually part of a larger umbrella which is how we get a Christian Worldview of healthy sexuality or what I often call a Christian sexual ethic. How you view, masturbation is actually under a greater context of how you consider all topics from sex, pornography, dating, and also masturbation amongst others.

As Christians we can have differing opinions on issues and still be brothers and sisters in Christ

Love to hear your thoughts on this. With topics like this please keep all discussion respectful.

He Started Vaping As A Teen And Now Says Habit Is ‘Impossible To Let Go’

Vaping seems to be a huge conversation with teens and parents as I travel. Here is another article talking about the addictive nature of vaping. I always hear people say that vaping is better than inhaling cigarette smoke. Why do we have to inhale anything is usually my response. If you are using a vape to switch from cigarettes I think it is great. Then you should be decreasing and coming off of vape as well.

E-cigarettes are tiny — they look like a pen or flash drive. When someone vapes, there’s no fire, ash or smoky odor. Instead, the devices heat up and vaporize a liquid or solid. And vaping appears to have taken off among young people.

“They specifically use nicotine salts,” Liptzin says. “We have no research that I could find on nicotine salts that are inhaled, because it’s so new.”

Most educators, parents and students “don’t realize how much nicotine is in there, or that there’s even any nicotine,” she says. “That’s what the research tells us.”

“So my biggest concern,” he says, “is, you know, right now I’m puffing, puffing, happy, worry-free, and then in 20 years I’ll have to explain to my kids why I’ve developed popcorn lung — or some new form of lung cancer,” Lavandier says. “Because I didn’t know what the risks were of e-cigarettes. It terrifies me.”

love to hear peoples thoughts. Thanks

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How To Talk With Your Kids About Vaping

I often find myself talking to teenagers (and even their parents) who are telling me that there are no dangers to vaping. I saw this today and thought I would post it to get some conversation going on this topic.

• Exposure to nicotine is worrisome in teens and young adults because nicotine can be highly addictive. Due to the fact that the brain is undergoing massive changes during the teen years, nicotine use may rewire the brain, making it easier to get hooked on other substances and contribute to problems with concentration, learning and impulse control.
• Most vape devices release a number of potentially toxic substances, although exposure is considerably lower than those found in regular cigarettes.
• Dependence develops when the body adapts to repeated exposure to vaping. When a person stops vaping, he or she can experience withdrawal symptoms, although likely not as intense as with conventional cigarettes.
• Vaping may be increasing risks of smoking. Teens and young adults who vape are almost four times as likely as their non-vaping peers to begin smoking cigarettes.
• Injuries and poisonings have resulted from devices exploding and direct exposure to e-liquids.
• Long-term studies are needed to evaluate the risks of cancer and respiratory illness, though there is some concern that vaping can cause coughing and wheezing and may exacerbate asthma.

Love to hear any thoughts you have.

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Are clean versions (radio edits) of songs ok?

I am often asked by parents about whether the “clean version” of a song is ok for their kids. I have to be honest that even the discussion of this makes me think that there is very little discernment in the music that we put into our lives. If a song needs a clean version that it is almost always inappropriate no matter if there is a clean version or not. If we need to make a clean version the song has not changed. If the language that is removed is just swearing, the swearing is really still there. If it is sexual, misogynist content, it is still there. Whatever it is is still there. Clean versions, for the most part, are just about hiding the bad content for radio or other places.
Now someone is going to tell me of a one-off song with a single line of language in it and start a debate on it. I will give you debate on that. Was there some choice with words and it was there to make a point. Even though I still might disagree with it I will give you an argument.
That is not what most of our most of the music we are talking about is like today.

Love to hear your thoughts on this as a parent.

Daddy I Do (2010) – Full Documentary

Really interesting documentary on the issues of “purity culture” within the Christian Church. I have seen too much damage when we make virginity an idol as opposed to an ideal. The video is from 2010 but it still worth the watch. Students today have so many questions and we are offering so little education on how to have a Biblical Worldview of healthy sexuality. We need to do a better job as parents, educators, and the church in this conversation.

**language in the video.

Synopsis: The Purity Ball symbolizes a father’s protection over his daughter’s virginity, but how does this reflect in the choices she makes, understanding her sexuality, and knowing her worth as a woman? This documentary examines the effects of Abstinence-Only Programs versus Comprehensive Sex Education in schools and what society can do to help lower teen pregnancies, abortions, and STD’S, as well as poverty and sexual abuse.

“Daddy I Do” shows how teen pregnancy, abortion, poverty, and sexual abuse all trace back to Sex Education in America. Opinions about sex stem from religious views, but it’s up to you, the viewer, to determine whether or not ideologies should decide what’s best for our children and our country. I strongly believe this film has the power to shed light on topics that many Americans are too afraid to address. Knowledge is power, and we need to use that power towards good. I encourage you to see the deeper meaning behind “Daddy I Do”, in hopes of a better tomorrow through positive action.

Love to hear your thoughts

Is our Fear-Based Parenting Negatively affecting our kids?

Is the way we seem to be over-parenting our kids affecting how they are turning out?

Could our own fears start to affect our kids as they grow up? 

Is there any fears that YOU have that might have migrated over to your kids lives? Driving, going out, dating …?

Today we look at a blog from Tim Elmore and a few stories from my speaking dates on fear-based parents.