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’13 Reasons Why’ holds many important lessons for parents of teenagers

As a full time speaker who spends 1/2 of his life speaking to high school age students I think this article is a great wake up call for parents. I find that many students today seem to be raising themselves with parents who are so busy with the downward spiral of their own lives that they have little time / capacity left to be actual parents to their own children.

Successfully parenting today’s teens requires close supervision, effective limit-setting and SM monitoring. Identifying symptoms of anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder and suicidal thoughts is imperative for early intervention and improved outcomes. But what is most important for parents — and lacking in 13 Reasons Why — is curiosity. Curiosity about teens’ friends, hobbies, homework or hairstyle choices. Parents too often dismiss their teens’ emotions as entitled, or their school-related struggles as trite, which leads to a feeling among teens that they are misunderstood and alone. But adolescence isn’t trite. High school experiences and the decisions made during those formative years shape teens’ mental and emotional development for life.

Please take a few minutes to read this article.

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Parents and Screentime. . . A Surprising Infographic . . .

So often we as parents are talking to out kids about their time spent on screens while taking little time to examine our own screen time. Great blog from Walt Mueller.

Then, I took the next step. It’s a step that hushes the parental gasps. In case you’re wondering where our kids learn this stuff, we need to look no further than ourselves. Late last year, the folks at Common Sense Media  released the data on parents. . . and it’s 9 hours and 22 minutes.

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Serving Parents Who Do Not Go To Your Church

This is a really good article for anyone who works with students in the church world. I have often said that a Jr/Sr High Pastors job needs to be educating and empowering parents as well. As a parent myself I had to take a second and try and figure out if I am one of the parenting styles he mentions:

  • Helicopter Parents– they hover too close to the kids at all times.
  • Karaoke Parents– they try too hard to be cool, often parroting back what their kids do, say, and wear.
  • Dry-Cleaner Parents– drop their kids off for others to raise.
  • Volcano Parents– erupt over minor issues. (If you’ve never witnessed this just spend more time at Wal-Mart.  You’re bound to encounter these parents.)
  • Dropout Parents– these parents have just quit on their kids.
  • Bullied Parents– can’t stand up to their kids.
  • Groupie Parents– treat their kids like rock stars.
  • Commando Parents – let rules trump relationships.

There are some good practical ways to engage the parents of the students you work with.

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The Only Six Words Parents Need to Say to Their Kids About Sports—Or Any Performance

As a coach (go Ajax Spartans Pee Wee Select!!) I would say “Yes” to this article. So much truth. Please take a few minutes to check it out.

Based on psychological research, the three healthiest statements moms and dads can make as [kids] perform are:

Before the Competition:  

Have fun.

Play hard.

I love you.

After the competition:

Did you have fun?

I’m proud of you.

I love you.

I find the last one before and after interesting: “I love you” I cannot tell you how many times after one of my talks I hear a teen or young adult tell me that their parents have never told them that they are loved. How about this for a little take away. Tell your kids you love them. This might look different for each of you. For some of you it might mean a quick text or a phone call. For others grab your kids when you see them next and tell them you love them. Side Note: If they are shocked when you tell them … you probably not told them enough.

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How can parents keep updated on the changing trends in culture?

I often get asked how I keep current on today’s social media, current trends, music and other aspects of todays popular culture. Below are the blogs that I sign up for. I would encourage all youth workers and parents to sign up for all of them. I am NOT saying just “like” them on social media but actually sign up for their blogs.  It means you will get updates directly to your mailbox each week on where current culture is and where culture is heading. All these are free.

  1. Center for Parent and Youth Understanding: Click Here. Sign up for their weekly e-update
  2. Fuller Youth Institute: Click Here. Bi Weekly updates.
  3. Azuza Pacific University HomeWord: Click Here. Sign up for their Weekly Culture Updates.
  4. The Youth Culture Report: Click Here. Daily youth culture trends
  5. Pluggedin: Click Here. Sign up for their newsletter and choose Culture Clips
  6. Youth Ministry Unleashed: Click Here.
  7. Brett Ullman: Click Here. Sign up for daily or weekly updates.

If you know of other great blogs let me know and I will add them to this list.
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