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Christian Parenting | Child Discipline | Is spanking ok?

I get this question a few times a month from Christian Parents: Can I spank my kids? It comes in different forms

1. Can I speak my kids? this sounds like you are asking are you allowed to spank your kids. The question seems to be asking IS it biblical or even is it allowed by law. Will I be charged for spanking a child if you do.

2. Should I spank my kids? Which seems to be more should I actually do this? Is this the right way to discipline my kids?

Parenting is hard. Christian parenting just might be harder as we come from a different worldview that much of society. We must grow our parenting skills to be able to learn how to discipline our kids properly. This video is talking about only one concept of child discipline ( ie spanking). We will have to look another time at how do we discipline a child and other good questions.

Is Masturbation a sin? Is it wrong? | Christian Worldview

I struggled with whether to vlog about this topic as it is one of those topics that we really don’t talk about in the church world. When we do talk about it, we often have differing opinions on this, and it just leads to unhealthy discourse. I think it is imperative that we address masturbation as it an issue that not only adults (men and women) but our children (again men and women) need to understand. We are ALL struggling with topics like masturbation, pornography, sex, etc in our modern sexualized culture today. Now, I need you to bear with me. This will be a little longer than my usual videos as we need to address this conversation in a context that is more than just a yes or no to masturbation.
This discussion is actually part of a larger umbrella which is how we get a Christian Worldview of healthy sexuality or what I often call a Christian sexual ethic. How you view, masturbation is actually under a greater context of how you consider all topics from sex, pornography, dating, and also masturbation amongst others.

As Christians we can have differing opinions on issues and still be brothers and sisters in Christ

Love to hear your thoughts on this. With topics like this please keep all discussion respectful.

Are clean versions (radio edits) of songs ok?

I am often asked by parents about whether the “clean version” of a song is ok for their kids. I have to be honest that even the discussion of this makes me think that there is very little discernment in the music that we put into our lives. If a song needs a clean version that it is almost always inappropriate no matter if there is a clean version or not. If we need to make a clean version the song has not changed. If the language that is removed is just swearing, the swearing is really still there. If it is sexual, misogynist content, it is still there. Whatever it is is still there. Clean versions, for the most part, are just about hiding the bad content for radio or other places.
Now someone is going to tell me of a one-off song with a single line of language in it and start a debate on it. I will give you debate on that. Was there some choice with words and it was there to make a point. Even though I still might disagree with it I will give you an argument.
That is not what most of our most of the music we are talking about is like today.

Love to hear your thoughts on this as a parent.

Is our Fear-Based Parenting Negatively affecting our kids?

Is the way we seem to be over-parenting our kids affecting how they are turning out?

Could our own fears start to affect our kids as they grow up? 

Is there any fears that YOU have that might have migrated over to your kids lives? Driving, going out, dating …?

Today we look at a blog from Tim Elmore and a few stories from my speaking dates on fear-based parents.

#GivingTuesday – Need help with 1 project (Parenting Book)

I am honoured to have had ongoing opportunities to speak across Canada and the US for the last 23 years on topics like mental health, media, sexuality, pornography, dating, men, parenting, and others. Thank you so much to the hundreds of people who have supported us both financially and with prayer over the past 20 years. I could never have dreamed up how far this ministry has come since first starting out.

The favourite parts of my job are researching, creating presentations, and then delivering those presentations in order to challenge people to connect their ancient faith with this modern world. I want to encourage my listeners to “enter the danger” on topics that may be difficult to work through. In these confusing times, we need perspectives and intelligent insights into current matters more than ever.

One of my least favourite things I need to do is fundraising. One of the least liked, shared or commented on posts that I put on social media are about fundraising. The hard part with this is that for a non-profit organization like Worlds Apart, fundraising is necessary for our functioning.  As a small charity, our funds come in from 3 sources

40% – speaking engagement honorariums
40% – tax receiptable donations/fundraising
20% – sales of books, DVD’s, digital downloads

Presently, there is 1 major project that I can use your help with: About a year ago I brought out a brand new talk for Parents called Parenting: Navigating Everything. I have also been writing a book for parents that will cover all aspects of parenting in this modern culture we live in today. While I am finishing the writing of the parent’s book I have an editor presently starting to edit the completed chapters. Once all the editing is complete we head to typesetting and then printing. My goal is to have the book out in mid-2019. To get this done I could really use your support. This is not a normal book. In the end, it will be about 250,000 words and be more of a handbook for Christian Parents on the following topics:

  • Mental Health
  • Sexuality
  • Dating
  • Pornography
  • Family Discipleship
  • Spiritual Disciplines (Practices)
  • Media
  • Engaging Culture
  • Finances
  • Education
    etc

There are also new areas which are larger foundations of parenting:

  • parenting styles
  • communication
  • discipline
  • time and presence

Where we stand presently with this project:


• Research $3000 – $500 needed ($2500 funded)

• Publishing $1000 – funded

• Editing / Typesetting $9000 – needed

• Graphics $1000 – funded

• Printing books $8000 – needed

Fundraising needs – $17,500

This is not an enormous amount of money but for a small charity like ours, it seems pretty overwhelming. Whether you can give a little or a lot thanks for considering this project.

How to Donate:

To donate online please do this through our link on Canada Helps – click here

Or to donate by mail please make your cheque payable to “Worlds Apart” and address it to:

Worlds Apart, 68 Ashbury Blvd, Ajax, Ontario, L1Z 1M8

If you have any questions please contact me through social media or email me at 
brett@brettullman.com.