Brett.Ullman

The important thing about yelling

Great article for all of us to read.

Excessive phone use, commitment overload, multiple page to-do lists, and the pursuit of perfection consumed me. And yelling at the people I loved was a direct result of the loss of control I was feeling in my life.

Inevitably, I had to fall apart somewhere. So I fell apart behind closed doors in the company of the people who meant the most to me.

Some great practical advice

I said things like, “It’s just chocolate syrup. You can wipe it up, and the counter will be as good as new.”

(Instead of expelling an exasperated sigh and an eye roll for good measure.)

I offered to hold the broom while she swept up a sea of Cheerios that covered the floor.

(Instead of standing over her with a look of disapproval and utter annoyance.)

I helped her think through where she might have set down her glasses.

(Instead of shaming her for being so irresponsible.)

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Christians are not against sex education!

Over the past month I have seen a steady stream of Facebook posts talking about the new Sex Education Curriculum that is being talked about for Ontario students. I scanned through my Facebook newsfeed over this past week and here are some of the themes and comments I saw:

  1. Overreaction. Tons of threats to pull their kids out of Ontario schools and either homeschool or send their kids to private schools. Also numerous threats to have their kids be “sick” on those days when sex is going to be talked about.
  2. I saw sensationalism and panic over miss-information. One mom talked about being sick that she thought her “Grade 3 daughter was going to be taught how to use a condom”. Another person was angry that she thought her Grade 2 was “going to be shown how to give oral sex”.
  3. I read a ton of condescending comments about teachers and other parents in Public School who do not come from the same Christian Worldview as the person who was telling their opinion.
  4. Shame (on parents who send their kids to sex education at public school) seemed to be a themes as well. Also a miss-guided view on all the other parents (not Christians) in public school that they all are want this “anything goes” sort of sex education. There are lots of GREAT parents that I know at my kids school who do not subscribe to the same Christian worldview that I do but are great parents and are walking through these tough topics just like parents who are Christians.

From what I read I would say that Christians are against ALL aspects of sex education. Out of the hundreds of comments I read there were only 5 that talked about not just being against all sex education but giving ideas or further discussion on how to talk about the topic of sex with our kids.

Lets look at this deeper … Read More

Should your Church stop having a stand and greet time?

Wow. so interesting.

The surprise factor was the number one issue. Many first-time guests really don’t like the time of stand and greet one another that some churches have. According to the Twitter responses and comments on the post, many guests really don’t like it, so much so that they will not return.

click the link to read the entire article.

http://www.christianpost.com/news/should-your-church-stop-having-a-stand-and-greet-time-129441/

The Bigger Picture: Why do we suffer?

After my breakdown in 2012 I have spent the past few years researching the concept of suffering from a Christian Worldview. To be honest I found very few books that seemed to have a balanced perspective on this topic.

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Last month I read a book by Richard Winter called When Life Goes Dark: Finding Hope in the Midst of Depression. I would highly suggest this book to anyone. When he gets to a section on suffering he had a list of 5 reasons why we suffer. To be honest this was the best perspective I have found. Again for people reading this is from a Christian Worldview or perspective. He talks about looking at the bigger picture in why we suffer.

1. We are caught up in a fallen world and deeply affected by it

2. We live with the affects of others sins

3. Our own sinful nature

4. We are also told that “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world” Eph. 6:12

5. God’s Discipline

As Christians we can then use our stories for HIS Kingdom and HIS Glory.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

The Deadly Deception of Sexual Atheism in the Church

Fascinating article with some really challenging concepts.

“While Christian singles report that praying and church attendance are highly desirable qualities in the dating matrix, a troubling and confusing dichotomy arises when the issue of sex before marriage presents itself. Specifically, single Christians enter a sexual fog. That fog clouds and hides the reality that an identity rooted in Christ should manifest itself in intelligent and hope-filled sexual restraint based on God’s promises and instead replaces it with fear and pride-filled choices based on some other promise they believe more.”

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Inoculating a Generation: Skye Jethani

Discussing why young people are leaving churches doesn’t offer a way forward for those of us who’ve stayed. Author Skye Jethani says the answer might be changing the way we relate to God. Instead of life over, under, or even for God, he says this generation should pursue life with God.

“We are presenting a generation with a vision of Christianity which is something less than what Christ intended.

Before we are called to something or somewhere … we are called to someone.”

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