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How To Talk With Your Kids About Vaping

I often find myself talking to teenagers (and even their parents) who are telling me that there are no dangers to vaping. I saw this today and thought I would post it to get some conversation going on this topic.

• Exposure to nicotine is worrisome in teens and young adults because nicotine can be highly addictive. Due to the fact that the brain is undergoing massive changes during the teen years, nicotine use may rewire the brain, making it easier to get hooked on other substances and contribute to problems with concentration, learning and impulse control.
• Most vape devices release a number of potentially toxic substances, although exposure is considerably lower than those found in regular cigarettes.
• Dependence develops when the body adapts to repeated exposure to vaping. When a person stops vaping, he or she can experience withdrawal symptoms, although likely not as intense as with conventional cigarettes.
• Vaping may be increasing risks of smoking. Teens and young adults who vape are almost four times as likely as their non-vaping peers to begin smoking cigarettes.
• Injuries and poisonings have resulted from devices exploding and direct exposure to e-liquids.
• Long-term studies are needed to evaluate the risks of cancer and respiratory illness, though there is some concern that vaping can cause coughing and wheezing and may exacerbate asthma.

Love to hear any thoughts you have.

Click here for the entire article.

Are clean versions (radio edits) of songs ok?

I am often asked by parents about whether the “clean version” of a song is ok for their kids. I have to be honest that even the discussion of this makes me think that there is very little discernment in the music that we put into our lives. If a song needs a clean version that it is almost always inappropriate no matter if there is a clean version or not. If we need to make a clean version the song has not changed. If the language that is removed is just swearing, the swearing is really still there. If it is sexual, misogynist content, it is still there. Whatever it is is still there. Clean versions, for the most part, are just about hiding the bad content for radio or other places.
Now someone is going to tell me of a one-off song with a single line of language in it and start a debate on it. I will give you debate on that. Was there some choice with words and it was there to make a point. Even though I still might disagree with it I will give you an argument.
That is not what most of our most of the music we are talking about is like today.

Love to hear your thoughts on this as a parent.

Daddy I Do (2010) – Full Documentary

Really interesting documentary on the issues of “purity culture” within the Christian Church. I have seen too much damage when we make virginity an idol as opposed to an ideal. The video is from 2010 but it still worth the watch. Students today have so many questions and we are offering so little education on how to have a Biblical Worldview of healthy sexuality. We need to do a better job as parents, educators, and the church in this conversation.

**language in the video.

Synopsis: The Purity Ball symbolizes a father’s protection over his daughter’s virginity, but how does this reflect in the choices she makes, understanding her sexuality, and knowing her worth as a woman? This documentary examines the effects of Abstinence-Only Programs versus Comprehensive Sex Education in schools and what society can do to help lower teen pregnancies, abortions, and STD’S, as well as poverty and sexual abuse.

“Daddy I Do” shows how teen pregnancy, abortion, poverty, and sexual abuse all trace back to Sex Education in America. Opinions about sex stem from religious views, but it’s up to you, the viewer, to determine whether or not ideologies should decide what’s best for our children and our country. I strongly believe this film has the power to shed light on topics that many Americans are too afraid to address. Knowledge is power, and we need to use that power towards good. I encourage you to see the deeper meaning behind “Daddy I Do”, in hopes of a better tomorrow through positive action.

Love to hear your thoughts

Is our Fear-Based Parenting Negatively affecting our kids?

Is the way we seem to be over-parenting our kids affecting how they are turning out?

Could our own fears start to affect our kids as they grow up? 

Is there any fears that YOU have that might have migrated over to your kids lives? Driving, going out, dating …?

Today we look at a blog from Tim Elmore and a few stories from my speaking dates on fear-based parents.

Winter 2019 Speaking Schedule: love to see you at one of these dates!

I thought I would post a list of the upcoming speaking dates I have this winter.  I did not include schools to this list as they are not events you might be able to attend.

For these dates, you can do one of 3 things:

  1. Attend with you and your family/friends.
  2. Bring some of the students/parents from your church along. You might want to email the church to confirm there are no costs.
  3. If I am in your region for a talk and you want to add a speaking date for your school, church, or another event please let me know. I often add in a Catholic School or Christian school in the cities I am speaking in.

Please make sure you check on their church/conference websites for more information. The times could change. Thanks


January 2019

Date: Wed., Jan 9th – Springville Church – Stouffville
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7pm

Date: Friday. Jan 11th – New Life Church- Woodbridge
Talk: media.faith.culture (Youth, young adults)
Time: 7pm

Date: Sunday. Jan 13th – Bayfair Baptist Church- Pickering
Talk: Walking Wounded 
Time: 6pm

Date: Friday, Jan 18th – Grant Memorial Church – Winnipeg
Talk: Dating.for.life
Time: 7pm

Date: Saturday, Jan 19th – Grant Memorial Church – Winnipeg
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7pm

Date: Sunday, Jan 20th – Grant Memorial Church – Winnipeg
Talk: The Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 9am & 11am (morning services)

Date: Tuesday, Jan 22nd – Forest Brook Church – Ajax (Pickering Village)
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Wednesday, Jan 23rd – Creekside Church – Waterloo
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Friday, Jan 25th – The Sanctuary  – Oakville
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Sunday, Jan 27th – WestPark Church  – London
Talk: The Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 9am & 11am (morning services)

Date: Sunday, Jan 27th – WestPark Church  – London
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 3:30-5:50pm

February 2019

Date: Friday, Feb 1st – New Life Church  – Woodbridge
Talk: The Porn Project (Youth, Young Adults)
Time: 7pm

Date: Friday, Feb 2st – Wilmot Centre Missionary Church  – Petersburg
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 10am-12

Date: Wednesday, Feb 6th – Milton Christian School  – Milton
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Friday, Feb 8th – The Peoples Church  – Toronto
Talk: media.faith.culture
Time: 7 pm

Date: Monday, Feb 11th – Forward Church  – Cambridge
Talk: Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 7 pm

Date: Friday/Saturday, Feb 15-16th – Awaken Youth Conference  – Buffalo
Talk: Multiple Talks
Time: starts Friday night

Date: Thursday, Feb 21st – ForestView  – Oakville
Talk: The Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 7 pm

Date: Friday, Feb 22nd – Calvary United  – St. Jacobs
Talk: The Porn Project
Time: 7 pm

Date: Saturday, Feb 23rd – Today’s Teens Conference  – Oakville
Talk: multiple talks
Time: 9-5

Date: Sunday, Feb 24 – Community Church  – Flamborough
Talk: The Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 9am & 11am (morning services)


March  2019

Date: Friday, March 1st – New Life Church – Woodbridge
Talk: The Sex Talk (Adults)
Time: 7 pm

Date: Saturday, March 2nd – Napanee – City Wide event
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything + another talk tbd
Time: time tbd

Date: Tuesday, March 19th – ForestBrook Church – Ajax (Pickering Village)
Talk: media.faith.culture
Time: 7 pm

Date: Wednesday, March 20th – The Bridge – Markham
Talk: media.faith.culture
Time: 7 pm

Date: Saturday, March 23rd – The Bridge – Markham
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: Conference 9-4

Date: Sunday, March 24th – Bethany CRC – Fenwick
Talk: Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 10 am

Date: Friday, March 29th – Cornerstone Christian Community Church – Markham
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Saturday, March 30th – Clearview Community Church – Staynor
Talk: Parenting: Navigating Everything
Time: 7 pm

Date: Sunday, March 31st – Clearview Community Church – Staynor
Talk: The Walking Wounded (Mental Health)
Time: 9:30am & 11am

Date: Sunday, March 31st – C4 Church – Ajax
Talk: dating.for.life (Young Adult Service)
Time: 7pm

End of Year Giving…

As we head to the end of 2018 we could use your help here at Worlds Apart. 

One of my least favourite things I need to do is fundraising. One of the least liked, shared or commented on posts that I put on social media are about fundraising. The hard part with this is that for a non-profit organization like Worlds Apart, fundraising is necessary for our functioning.  As a small charity, our funds come in from 3 sources

40% – speaking engagement honorariums
40% – tax receiptable donations/fundraising
20% – sales of books, DVD’s, digital downloads

Presently, there is 1 major project that I can use your help with: About a year ago I brought out a brand new talk for Parents called Parenting: Navigating Everything. I have also been writing a book for parents that will cover all aspects of parenting in this modern culture we live in today. While I am finishing the writing of the parent’s book I have an editor presently starting to edit the completed chapters. Once all the editing is complete we head to typesetting and then printing. My goal is to have the book out in mid-2019. To get this done I could really use your support. This is not a normal book. In the end, it will be about 250,000 words and be more of a handbook for Christian Parents on the following topics:

  • Mental Health
  • Sexuality
  • Dating
  • Pornography
  • Family Discipleship
  • Spiritual Disciplines (Practices)
  • Media
  • Engaging Culture
  • Finances
  • Education
    etc

There are also new areas which are larger foundations of parenting:

  • parenting styles
  • communication
  • discipline
  • time and presence

Where we stand presently with this project:

• Research $3000 – $500 needed ($2500 funded)

• Publishing $1000 – funded

• Editing / Typesetting $9000 – needed ($2000 funded)

• Graphics $1000 – funded

• Printing books $8000 – needed ($2500 funded)

Fundraising needs – $13,000

This is not an enormous amount of money but for a small charity like ours, it seems pretty overwhelming. Whether you can give a little or a lot thanks for considering this project.

How to Donate:

To donate online please do this through our link on Canada Helps – click here

Or to donate by mail please make your cheque payable to “Worlds Apart” and address it to:

Worlds Apart, 68 Ashbury Blvd, Ajax, Ontario, L1Z 1M8

If you have any questions please contact me through social media or email me at 
brett@brettullman.com.