Brett.Ullman

Category - parenting

Are we Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?

I have been out of teaching for 9 years myself but I saw similar things like the ones mentioned in this article when I was teaching Grades 7 & 8. Great read for parents and leaders today. Such great thoughts:

“We need to let our kids fail at 12 – which is far better than at 42,” he says. “We need to tell them the truth (with grace) that the notion of ‘you can do anything you want’ is not necessarily true.”

Kids need to align their dreams with their gifts. Every girl with a lovely voice won’t sing at the Met; every Little League baseball star won’t play for the major leagues.

• Allow them to get into trouble and accept the consequences. It’s okay to make a “C-.” Next time, they’ll try harder to make an “A”.

• Balance autonomy with responsibility. If your son borrows the car, he also has to re-fill the tank.

• Collaborate with the teacher, but don’t do the work for your child. If he fails a test, let him take the consequences.

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The Forsaken: A Rising Number of Homeless Gay Teens Are Being Cast Out by Religious Families

In the things we agree on Unity, the things we disagree on Liberty but it all things Love. In all things LOVE! We seem to be missing this last one when I read articles like this one in Rolling Stone.

This is not the time or place for a debate on pro or against LGBT lifestyle but a challenge for those of us who claim to be part of Christian Faith to actually live out the things we sing, talk about and read in scripture.

When I read this article and heard that this Christian mother said this to her daughter

“I don’t know what we could have done for God to have given us a fag as a child,”

This is speaking death to someone.  The Bible is clear about the tongue and its power. The lifelong destruction by the words of these parents in this article so lack any conversation of hope, mercy, and grace. It seems crazy that we have Christians kicking their kids out of their houses then other churches or organizations might be helping the same kids when they are on the street.

For those of us who work with youth, this seems to be a growing conversation. Teens and Young Adults hurt and broken by the conversations and language used by parents, leaders and other Christians.

This article leaves me with a weird feeling of great sadness mixed with great anger.

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The Teen Brain: It’s Just Not Grown Up Yet

Very interesting read for parents and youth leaders.

This also may explain why teenagers often seem so maddeningly self-centered. “You think of them as these surly, rude, selfish people,” Jensen says. “Well, actually, that’s the developmental stage they’re at. They aren’t yet at that place where they’re thinking about — or capable, necessarily, of thinking about the effects of their behavior on other people. That requires insight.”

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