Brett.Ullman

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Porn Project Resources: Accountable2You

In my research for my new talk I came across a software I am presently using called Accountable2You. Pretty decent Internet and Computer Accountability software.

If you put in WORLDSAPART as the promo code when you sign up you can get one month free. Click the banner below to go to their website.

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Costs for this software:

$4.99/month
Unlimited Computers & Devices
Unlimited Accountability Partners
Email and Text Alerts
Full Activity Reporting

If you do sign up please sign up after clicking through on the banner above. Most companies today have some sort of affiliate program. It means they take a small amount of the purchase price and we get it back to our charity to further the work of the new talk “The Porn Project”. If you are going to sign up anyway you also get to help us out in the process. thanks

If you sign up let me know what you like about this software. What do you like? Anything you dislike?

The most important thing you can do with your kids? Eat dinner with them.

Such a great challenge for parents today. Eat meals together. Now I fully understand that with the schedules of school and work that you will probably never have breakfast together during the week. During the week lunch is also out. I think it is really important that you cherish the evening dinner times and meals on the weekend. I also understand that we might be out for sports, music or dance classes during the week. I would encourage people to block out at least 3 dinners a week you can be together as a family.

So many good reasons to eat together are put forth in this article:

  1. Brain food – “For starters, researchers found that for young children, dinnertime conversation boosts vocabulary even more than being read aloud to.”
  2. Does the body good – “Children who eat regular family dinners also  consume more fruits, vegetables, vitamins and micronutrients, as well as fewer fried foods and soft drinks. And the nutritional benefits keep paying dividends even after kids grow up: young adults who ate regular family meals as teens are less likely to be obese and more likely to eat healthily once they live on their own.”
  3. Soul food – “In addition, a stack of studies link regular family dinners with lowering a host of high risk teenage behaviours parents fear: smoking, binge drinking, marijuana use, violence, school problems, eating disorders and sexual activity.”

Click here to read the article.

Dear Well-Meaning (But Ignorant) Parents: This Is What Your Teens Are Really Doing on the Internet

Love to hear from teenagers and others if they thing this article is true. Really interesting thoughts here.

I know, I know. Your child would never do that! Let me tell you something:You. Don’t. Know. That. You know those tiny feelings you get every day but you cope nicely because you’re an adult? Feelings like insecurity, boredom, even the loneliness of being at home when your friends are all going out – well these feelings are massive to teenagers. A combination of hormones and inexperience create a veritable powder keg of unpredictable behavior. Insecurity might lead to seeking acceptance from strangers by posting a selfie and waiting for people to reblog, like, or comment on it. Boredom might lead to extended conversations online with someone they’ve never met about deeply personal matters. Loneliness can lead to online sex. No, really. It can.

Click here for the blog

 

Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World

This goes along with my blog from yesterday. This is a book for those of us with sons. Awesome book.

Here is a landmark book that reveals the way boys think and that shows parents, educators and coaches how to reach out and help boys overcome their most common yet difficult challenges — by the bestselling author who changed our conception of adolescent girls.

Do you constantly struggle to pull information from your son, student, or athlete, only to encounter mumbling or evasive assurances such as “It’s nothing” or “I’m good?” Do you sense that the boy you care about is being bullied, but that he’ll do anything to avoid your “help?” Have you repeatedly reminded him that schoolwork and chores come before video games only to spy him reaching for the controller as soon as you leave the room? Have you watched with frustration as your boy flounders with girls?

Welcome to Boy World. It’s a place where asking for help or showing emotional pain often feels impossible. Where sports and video games can mean everything, but working hard in school frequently earns ridicule from “the guys” even as they ask to copy assignments. Where “masterminds” dominate and friends ruthlessly insult each other but can never object when someone steps over the line. Where hiding problems from adults is the ironclad rule because their involvement only makes situations worse.

Boy world is governed by social hierarchies and a powerful set of unwritten rules that have huge implications for your boy’s relationships, his interactions with you, and the man he’ll become. If you want what’s best for him, you need to know what these rules are and how to work with them effectively.

What you’ll find in Masterminds and Wingmen is critically important for every parent – or anyone who cares about boys – to know. Collaborating with a large team of middle- and high-school-age editors, Rosalind Wiseman has created an unprecedented guide to the life your boy is actually experiencing – his on-the-ground reality. Not only does Wiseman challenge you to examine your assumptions, she offers innovative coping strategies aimed at helping your boy develop a positive, authentic, and strong sense of self.

Click here for the Amazon.ca link.

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World

One of my favourite books for those of us with daughters.

When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees & Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls’ friendships and conflicts–from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another.

Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores:

•How girls’ experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success
•The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated
•Girls’ power plays–from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages
•Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex
•Checking your baggage–recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughter’s difficult, yet common social conflicts

Packed with insights about technology’s impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie Mean Girls offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity.

Click here for Amazon.ca link