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Are clean versions (radio edits) of songs ok?

I am often asked by parents about whether the “clean version” of a song is ok for their kids. I have to be honest that even the discussion of this makes me think that there is very little discernment in the music that we put into our lives. If a song needs a clean version that it is almost always inappropriate no matter if there is a clean version or not. If we need to make a clean version the song has not changed. If the language that is removed is just swearing, the swearing is really still there. If it is sexual, misogynist content, it is still there. Whatever it is is still there. Clean versions, for the most part, are just about hiding the bad content for radio or other places.
Now someone is going to tell me of a one-off song with a single line of language in it and start a debate on it. I will give you debate on that. Was there some choice with words and it was there to make a point. Even though I still might disagree with it I will give you an argument.
That is not what most of our most of the music we are talking about is like today.

Love to hear your thoughts on this as a parent.

Daddy I Do (2010) – Full Documentary

Really interesting documentary on the issues of “purity culture” within the Christian Church. I have seen too much damage when we make virginity an idol as opposed to an ideal. The video is from 2010 but it still worth the watch. Students today have so many questions and we are offering so little education on how to have a Biblical Worldview of healthy sexuality. We need to do a better job as parents, educators, and the church in this conversation.

**language in the video.

Synopsis: The Purity Ball symbolizes a father’s protection over his daughter’s virginity, but how does this reflect in the choices she makes, understanding her sexuality, and knowing her worth as a woman? This documentary examines the effects of Abstinence-Only Programs versus Comprehensive Sex Education in schools and what society can do to help lower teen pregnancies, abortions, and STD’S, as well as poverty and sexual abuse.

“Daddy I Do” shows how teen pregnancy, abortion, poverty, and sexual abuse all trace back to Sex Education in America. Opinions about sex stem from religious views, but it’s up to you, the viewer, to determine whether or not ideologies should decide what’s best for our children and our country. I strongly believe this film has the power to shed light on topics that many Americans are too afraid to address. Knowledge is power, and we need to use that power towards good. I encourage you to see the deeper meaning behind “Daddy I Do”, in hopes of a better tomorrow through positive action.

Love to hear your thoughts

Is our Fear-Based Parenting Negatively affecting our kids?

Is the way we seem to be over-parenting our kids affecting how they are turning out?

Could our own fears start to affect our kids as they grow up? 

Is there any fears that YOU have that might have migrated over to your kids lives? Driving, going out, dating …?

Today we look at a blog from Tim Elmore and a few stories from my speaking dates on fear-based parents.

The Walking Wounded: Brett Ullman | The Church and Mental Health

After hearing of numerous suicides this week, multiple families in crisis, and people desperate for some help with mental health struggles I decided to post my Walking Wounded talk on Youtube. This is my entire professionally filmed talk on mental health. 

This goes through my own journey with a breakdown including struggles with anxiety, panic attacks, and depression, as well as looking at how we can practically find what to do when we are not well. Practical conversation on Mental Health and the Church.

Life is good … until it’s not.
Dark clouds come in all shapes and sizes and leave us asking where do we turn? Some of us struggle with mental health: anxiety, depression etc. Some of our struggles come from coping with tough situations in life by Self Injuring: eating disorders, suicide, self-harm and drug, and alcohol use.
When we are surrounded by these heightened emotions and feelings life becomes one that is isolated from others and we begin to be full of questions instead of answers and we do not know what will work, or where to turn.
How do we begin our journey towards hope, healing, redemption, rescue, and a restoration to wholeness?
Where and when does our journey back to life begin again?
As a Follower of the Way (A Christian) What about our faith? How does our faith fit into our healing journey?
This talk has no cliches, no Christianese and does not put forward promises of false hope.

Brett Ullman in The Walking Wounded begins to address how to walk back towards healing and away from our emotions, feelings, and thoughts that are keeping us paralyzed in life.

No shame, no fear, or no hiding is required as we are safe to journey towards healing together.
There is Hope for the Walking Wounded.

This is my full presentation on mental health. If you want to show this to your church, youth group, camp etc you can buy a digital download from the Vimeo link – https://vimeo.com/ondemand/brettullman

If this talk helped you or someone in your family and you would like to make a small donation to the Charity (Worlds Apart) you can do so from this link – https://www.canadahelps.org/en/dn/15850 Thanks for any support.

The Most Underused Medication for Mental Health

Today I want to talk about the most underused medication for mental health struggles: Exercise.

Now, please listen clearly I am not saying to stop seeing your doctors, psychologists psychiatrist, and other specialists who are helping you on this journey. In the blog Everyday Health they say:

“Exercise won’t cure anxiety or depression, but the physical and psychological benefits can improve the symptoms,” explains Sally R. Connolly, LCSW, a therapist at the Couples Clinic of Louisville in Kentucky. “Research shows that at least 30 minutes of exercise three to five days a week can significantly make a difference.” Some studies have suggested that regular exercise can help alleviate anxiety as much as anxiety medications, and the anxiety-relieving effects of exercise may last longer than those of drugs.”

Love to hear your thoughts on mental health and exercise. 

Are you listening to your kids? Are you a safe parent?

Some questions for you as a parent:
Have you created a safe home environment for your kids? A place where they can share about any struggle they are going through?
Are you actually listening?

I find often kids say one of 2 things:

  1. They do not feel like they are able to share their struggles with their parents
  2. They shared their struggles and their parents did not really listen to them
    We often need to work on better communication skills.