I was at a talk the other day and a father came up to me and said “Do you want to know the most revolutionary thing about your talk today” I answered yes, yes I do. He paused and then said it was when I said that families should eat together as much as they can. He said that his family 3 teenagers NEVER eat together except on holidays. He said they put out like a Buffett style dinner. Everyone comes through grabs their food and then disperses all over the house and him and his wife watches TV while eating. So here is the most common sense video… eat dinner together as much as you can.
This has been one of my favourite books for years. I copied out one of the first few pages of the book. Basically, the premise of the book is each day you get up you look at all of these areas of your life. Make daily decisions to live these areas to the best of your abilities. When you go to bed you see how you did. Each chapter of the book is on the different areas of your life mentioned below (attitude, priorities etc). This is a very practical book for people who come from a faith background or not.
In Psalms 90:12 it says “Teach me to number our days, that we may get a heart of wisdom” To me, this is the heart behind the marble jar analogy. This is a concept I have heard of since I had young kids. I really like it
Love to hear your thoughts on the marbles jar analogy. What did you think of my twist on this?
Quick PSA (Public Service Announcement) today for parents
Parents, please stop forwarding messages on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. talking about this MOMO challenge. I have had so many parents messaging me in fear this past week. Parents keep tagging me in MOMO articles but never the articles that talk about how…
IT IS A HOAX
I decided to make a Youtube video on it and within minutes found someone else who made a great response. PLEASE watch the first 7 minutes (small language at the start) on this. He goes through everything and more that I was going to say.
We do as parents need to take an active role in our kids lives both online and off.
We do need to addressing bullying and mental health issues amongst others in the lives of our kids.
We do need to stop listening to fear-based media and do a little research for ourselves before we become part of the problem and share this material around. We as parents need to have some media discernment and follow proper digital citizenship on what we do online.
Please check out the first part of the video above and I would love to hear your thoughts.
One of the most asked questions I get from parents is at what age should my kids get smartphones? I do think that we have to look at both what age and also their maturity level. Here is my thoughts on this.
Love to hear your thoughts on this. If your kids already have a smart phone at what age did they get one?
In my talk called Parenting: Navigating Everything, I cover numerous topics in the realm of parenting such as parenting styles, time, communication, and discipline. The list below includes all the books I promote and I quote in the presentation. I will do other book lists for different topics like mental health, sex, and media etc but this one is my top picks for books on the greater concept of parenting. I have given you direct links to Amazon in Canada and the US after each book. You can find full descriptions on Amazon.
I would suggest having a parenting book on the go at all times whether its a physical book or a Kindle version. Read a chapter or even just 10 pages a day. You will easily then read around a book or 2 every month. I have put (faith-based) at the end of the book if the author has faith-based content in the book. If you want to be a better parents pick up a few books to help you in this area.
The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups – Leonard Sax (Canada) (US)
Trophy Child: Saving Parents from Performance, Preparing Children for Something Greater Than Themselves – Ted Cunningham (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
Hold On to Your Kids: Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers – Gorden Neufeld & Gabor Maté (Canada) (US)
12 Huge Mistakes Parents Can Avoid: Leading Your Kids to Succeed in Life – Tim Elmore (Canada) (US)
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success – Julie Lythcott-Haims (Canada) (US)
Revolutionary Parenting: What the Research Shows Really Works – George Barna (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids – Madaline Levine (Canada) (US)
Dr. Karyn’s Guide To The Teen Years: Understanding and Parenting Your Teenagers – Karyn Gordon (Canada) (US)
Free-Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) – Lenore Skenazy (Canada) (US)
Under Pressure: Putting the Child Back in Childhood – Carl Honoré (Canada) (US)
Parenting Beyond Your Capacity: Connecting Your Family to a Wider Community – Reggie Joiner & Carey Nieuwhof (Faith-based) (Canada) (US)
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed – Jessica Lahey (Canada) (US)
The Grown Ups Guide to Teenage Humans: How to Decode Their Behavior, Develop Unshakable Trust, and Raise a Respectable Adult – Josh Shipp (Canada) (US)
The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact – Chip and Dan Heath (Canada) (US)
The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively – Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell (Canada) (US)
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively – Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell (Canada) (US)
Secrets of Discipline: 12 Keys for raising responsible children – Ronald. G. Morrish (Canada) (US)
These are all books that I have read and I found very helpful in my own parenting, as well as I use their content in my talks. If there are any great books you think I am missing please send them to me. This list will grow over time.
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