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A New Narrative: Talking to your teens about technology: Vlog 5 of 5: Video Games

This is Part 5 of a 5 part video blog (vlog) series where we will be looking at trying to change the narrative of how we speak to our kids about technology. We will look at current ways parents talk to teens about tech and then look at a new narrative that teens will respond to better. We need to move from telling to teaching. Today we look at a new way to talk to our kids around the conversations on Video games.

Four Parenting Strategies for Leading Generation Z

How we are as parents has SUCH an impact on how our kids view the world.

I have written for years about “paranoid parenting styles” that prevail today. It is a well-intentioned approach that’s damaging to children. It’s based on the belief that our world has become very unsafe for children and kids should spend every waking hour under adult supervision. This paradigm emerged in the early 1980s, when John Walsh began devoting his life to make sure no family had to endure what he and his wife did, after their six-year-old son, Adam, was abducted and murdered in Florida. It was from this incident that the Adam Walsh Child Resource Center launched and persuaded congress to create the National Center for Missing or Exploited Children. Walsh also was instrumental in launching the true-crime TV show, America’s Most Wanted, as well as a movie about his son’s life. By the mid-80s, photos of missing children appeared on milk cartons and several other public places across the U.S.

All of these were positive initiatives, but the negative, unintended consequence has been enormous. From this decade, adults began to believe our world was less safe than ever—and kids needed oversight or direction at all times. So many began over-parenting their children (even teens) becoming “helicopter parents” and “karaoke parents” (who wanted to act like their kids) and “lawnmower parents” who mowed down anything or anyone in the way of their kids’ success.

What Was the Unintended Result?
As kids became a more visual priority in our culture, societal shifts began happening.

Let me explain the outcomes from decades of research on this parenting style:

  1. Kids began feeling entitled to special perks because we said, “They’re special.”
  2. Kids began to feel unsafe, afraid and even paranoid because of their parent’s behavior.
  3. Kids began believing they were fragile and could not handle adversity.
  4. Kids began embracing the narrative that the world is full of evil people who could harm them.

Please take a few minutes to read through this entire article.

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A New Narrative: Talking to your teens about technology: Vlog 4 of 5: Music

This is Part 4 of a 5 part video blog (vlog) series where we will be looking at trying to change the narrative of how we speak to our kids about technology. We will look at current ways parents talk to teens about tech and then look at a new narrative that teens will respond to better. We need to move from telling to teaching. Today we look at a new way to talk to our kids around the conversations on Music in our Christian world today.

Vlog #1 – Phones

Vlog #2 – Social Media

Vlog #3 – TV/Movies

Vlog #4 – Music – this video

Vlog #5 – Video Games – coming next week

Father Raymond J. de Souza: Cannabis causes harm. But no one cares

Another article on the legalization of Cannabis in Canada.

For those who seek a distinction between marijuana and “hard” drugs like opiates and meth, and “soft” drugs like pot, the usual recourse is to liken pot to alcohol. We not only have legal alcohol, but use public dollars to promote its consumption, so why should marijuana be any different? Getting high on a joint is just like getting drunk, so treat it the same.

It’s not, physiologically, but leave that aside and take the argument in the other direction. If you had a society in which alcohol consumption was non-existent, or at least rare, would it be a good idea to try to increase it?

You don’t have to be a priest or police officer or counsellor to know the terrible toll alcohol takes. There are many cultural and practical reasons why the prohibition of alcohol is both unwise and impractical, but that it is legal should not obscure that it does massive damage, often to the most vulnerable. The same goes, by the way, for the casinos and video lottery terminals that the government pushes, to use the apt word, upon vulnerable populations.

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Cannabis and the CMA (Canadian Medical Association)

There is some great information on the CMA site.

Recommending a public health approach
In legalizing cannabis, the federal government must focus on protecting Canadians and reducing any potential impact on health — in particular for children and youth.

In its submission to the federal Task Force on Cannabis Legalization and Regulation, the CMA recommends a broad public health approach that would focus on:

preventing drug dependence and addiction;
increasing availability of assessment, counselling and treatment services for those who wish to stop using; and
increasing the safety for those who are using through harm reduction programs and awareness.

They have posters and other links you can check out as well.

Click here for the website.