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Understanding Anxiety

Great simple article.

Do you feel anxious from time to time? We all do – and it’s perfectly normal. Whether it’s work, personal life, parenthood or school, life can be overwhelming. But there’s an important difference between feeling anxious and struggling with a diagnosable anxiety disorder. This Psychology Month, let’s consider anxiety in greater depth to provide clarity on when and if you need to seek professional help.

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The.Sex.Talk now available on DVD or Digital Download

I am excited to announce that you can now get my new talk (for parents and leaders) called the.sex.talk on:

Digital Download – https://vimeo.com/ondemand/thesextalk

DVD – http://speaking.brettullman.com/shop-brett-ullman/sex-talk-dvd-detail.html

Description: Everyone likes to feel comfortable. In fact, we pad our lives with comforts of all kinds, and those things that make life uncomfortable for us we push as far from us as possible. If you’re like most people, you quietly withdrew as you read the title of this piece (the.sex.talk) in Christian context.

The Why: One scary statistic says that 70-80% of Christian Young Adults have had sex before they get married. We need to completely rethink how we engage students in this conversation as parents, youth leaders and as members of the greater Christian community. What a difficult time to grow up as a teenager; so many questions and so few people willing to answer them. As Christian adults, we cannot continue to be silent on these issues of sexuality.

The How: This talk helps equip and empower parents as to how to help their kids get a Biblical worldview of healthy sexuality. The.Sex.Talk is an unapologetic, straight-forward talk on the nature of sex in this era of modern, overly-sexualized culture. Addressing such issues as Christian faith, STI’s, pregnancy, pornography, sexting, singleness and grace, Brett Ullman tackles the often awkward and uncomfortable topic of sex in a direct, Biblical fashion linking current topics and trends with Biblical examples and principles.

The Goal: This project attempts to create and promote a culture where Christian parents and their teenagers are equipped and empowered to have this conversation resulting in better, healthier choices in the area of sex for their teenagers.

Our media-saturated culture consistently floods our minds with inaccurate, often twisted truths about the true nature of sex. As fellow journeyers, let’s ask the tough questions together as we look to connect our ancient faith with our modern world

Guest Blogger | The Invention of the Teenager – by Sarah E. Ball

The Invention of the Teenager – by Sarah E. Ball

Child labour laws, the invention of the automobile, and creative marketing led to one major invention in the 1940’s – the teenager. Sure, kids between the ages of 13 and 19 have always existed, but pre-depression era, you were a child, then you were an adult. The idea of dressing like a teen, acting out like a teen, excusing yourself from serious life choices, and carefree living, was a product of Coke commercials, Model T’s and laws protecting minors from hard labour.  Since this evolution of the teenager, we have treated teenagers differently. We have allowed more room for them to explore and express, excused rebellious behaviour due to hormones and brain development, and given them the grace to find themselves and be anybody they want to be when they ‘grow up’. In all, this has benefited children and society, because we put less pressure on our children, and education has taken priority.

However, could this “you can figure it out when you’re an adult” teenager grace, be robbing our children of their identities and delaying their purpose in Christ?

I often remind my own two teenagers that almost all of the major men and women in the bible, were called to a purpose in Christ as a teen. David was anointed king, Mary was chosen to carry the Messiah, Joseph dreamt of his future in Technicolor, and Samuel was raised in his purpose from childhood. I remind my often begruntled teens, who would rather play video games and Snap Chat friends then pray, that God has a purpose for them to fulfill now. God doesn’t see pimples, God sees purpose.

Inside every person the search for identity drives us. We are endlessly searching for who we are, why we exist, what’s in it for us and asking what we have to offer. This is the longing of the human soul, always in pursuit of purpose. It shows itself in the curiosity and stubborn independence of a two year old, and in the weariness of an 80 year old who wants to know if they are of any value anymore. For teenagers this drive is intense, Satan knows it, God knows, and there’s a violent, ruthless battle raging. If you want to lead a teen in the WRONG direction, convince them that they are needed, valued and belong to a cause. Even if that cause is for evil and not for good. Want to lead a teen in the RIGHT direction, convince them they are needed, valued and belong to a great cause.

When a young person grabs a hold of who they are in God, even if the clarity on that purpose is vague, they live life like a pointed arrow. My teenaged son, like many other teenaged boys, went through a “funk”. I knew that grumpiness, isolation, and “parents are lame” lamenting, was to be expected at this age, but it seemed to go a little deeper than expected. Popular at school, VIP in football, his outgoing personality was fading at home and our conversations consisted of caveman speak and pantry pillaging. How was I going to reach this kid? I kept praying. I asked him one evening if he thought he was depressed, in which he grunted “I’m not depressed, mom, I’m a teenager, I’m doing what teens do.”

Somehow, my son had picked up this theology that apathy, depression, isolation and lack of motivation was a ‘teen’ thing. My husband and I decided to intentionally start speaking purpose into his life, and encouraging him to start seeking God and not the world for his identity. This isn’t always easy, especially when the world offers so many cooler things to identify with, but I know and God knows that our teens can make a huge difference in the world around them, and they don’t have to wait to grow up to do it.

There is no “junior Holy spirt” there is only THE Holy Spirit, and he lives inside a 16year old and a 60 year old Christian. If God can entrust the kingdom to a 14 year old shepherd, we can raise up our teenagers to take on spiritual authority too.

Perhaps this begins with ourselves. Setting an example of living a life full of purpose and clear vision and passing the keys onto our kids. I think it’s also about speaking life into our teens, and not being afraid to push them a little.

In 1 Samuel 16, Samuel stood examining all of Jesse’s sons, from the oldest and strongest to the youngest and weakest, waiting for God to choose. There stood David, ruddy, handsome and young. God said to Samuel “Do not look upon his appearance or on the height of his stature – for the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” As he stood before David, Samuel looked past his age, perhaps his pimples and body odor, and declared him King. This is, I believe, is our greatest purpose as mentors, teachers and parents of teens, to make declarations of purpose over them, despite their outward appearance.

Sarah E. Ball is a speaker, columnist, and author of The Shame Project. She is also the Alberta representative for The Word Guild.  She lives with her husband and five children in Alberta, Canada. She has made several television appearances and speaking engagements talking about shame, fear, hope and her deliverance from anxiety, depression and harm OCD. You can download a FREE copy of The Shame Project on her blog Virtuous Woman Exposed, follow her on Facebook and Twitter.  

Sarah

Worlds Apart: a Year in Review (Annual Report)

2015 is slowly coming to a close. To all those people who have supported the work of Worlds Apart in any way I wanted to send out a quick recap of all that we have been able to accomplish this past year. Thank you to all the people who have supported and prayed for the work we do.

Things to Celebrate (Brett Ullman):

Presentations (Brett Ullman): ~115 presentation in one of the 6 topics that I speak on

Speaking to: ~50,00 students, parents & leaders

Venues: Schools, Churches, Student Camps, Family Camp, Conferences, Festivals

Locations: throughout Ontario with special speaking dates in Regina, Edmonton, British Columbia, Kingdom Bound Festival (NY) and others.

Celebrate:

  1. This year we filmed the Walking Wounded talk on Mental Health. It was amazing to get this project out. It has been used by over 300 churches throughout North America and in the UK.
  2. This year we were able to put up a site to poll Canadian Christians on current topics. The first topic is pornography and we have presently had over 400 people take the poll. You can see the poll here.
  3. This was our first full year having our blog on www.brettullman.com running. We had over 50,000 people visit our blog this year from over 50 countries.
  4. For my presentations:
    1. I released a major update to my media.faith.culture talk called media.faith.culture: the disconnect. 
    2. My new talk the.Sex.Talk for Parents and Leaders was released this year.
    3. I was also excited to release a brand new talk on Pornography called The Porn Project.

Prayer requests as we head into 2016

  1. My health. It has been a number of years since my breakdown in 2012. I am still struggling with daily anxiety, panic attacks and sleep issues. Would appreciate your prayers that all the people who are working on my care can help me find some relief in this journey.
  2. Please continue to pray for the students, parents and leaders in the talks that I do. Pray that the presentations would be a catalyst for them to move forward in different areas of growth, healing, parenting and leading.
  3. We would love to grow our monthly donors. If you can help with $10 a month please check out our page on CanadaHelps (Click here) where you can set this up.
  4. We have currently raised 75% of the funds to film my new talk the.sex.talk. If you or your company can help in this project please let us know. You can use the CanadaHelps system for donations or send a cheque if you like.
  5. Prayer that we would be open to the leading of where God wants Worlds Apart to move and grow in 2016 and beyond.

Things to Celebrate (Leanne Cabral):

Celebrate

  1. My prayer for 2015 was for 5 speaking opportunities—9 came into fruition including a Bringing Faith Home series.
  2. In April I had the opportunity to film 2 interviews for The 700 Club Canada for their Mother’s Day Special—What an incredible experience!
  3. February I embarked on an authoring journey as I began to put my talks and the message of Bringing Faith Home into book form. Today 90% of the content is complete and the rest should be finished by Christmas, at which point the editing process begins. Keep your eyes open for “A Parent’s Best Gift”—available this Spring!
  4. The process of writing has birthed 5 new talks that I would love to add to the 4 I already have. The content is created (and in the book), and I look forward to constructing key note presentations to go with them!
  5. I am so thankful for the generous funding, faithful support, encouragement and prayers of those, the Lord has placed across my path. I am deeply humbled and grateful—they have truly been a conduit of the Father’s love, faithfulness and provision!

Prayer Requests for 2016

  1. Please pray that the Lord will continue to open doors for the message of Bringing Faith Home at Churches, Christian Schools, Conferences and Family Camps
  2. I would love your prayers for the editing and publishing process of the book as well as the marketing and launching of it.
  3. Please pray about the possibilities of creating coaching programs and equipping others to teach the message of Bringing Faith Home
  4. Please continue to pray for the families who hear the message of BFH – May the trajectory of families be forever changed
  5. I would value your prayers for myself and my own family too, as the Lord brings us to mind.

Robert Whitley: Why men commit suicide

Really great article talking about a topic most people shy away from.

Men’s mental health is an area of key concern, especially the high rates of suicide. Around 75 per cent of suicides are men, with over 50 per week dying by suicide in Canada. These are particularly pronounced in the 40-60 age group. This has led Prof. Dan Bilsker of Simon Fraser University to declare that we are experiencing a “silent epidemic of male suicide.”

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