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Christian Parenting | Child Discipline | Is spanking ok?

I get this question a few times a month from Christian Parents: Can I spank my kids? It comes in different forms

1. Can I speak my kids? this sounds like you are asking are you allowed to spank your kids. The question seems to be asking IS it biblical or even is it allowed by law. Will I be charged for spanking a child if you do.

2. Should I spank my kids? Which seems to be more should I actually do this? Is this the right way to discipline my kids?

Parenting is hard. Christian parenting just might be harder as we come from a different worldview that much of society. We must grow our parenting skills to be able to learn how to discipline our kids properly. This video is talking about only one concept of child discipline ( ie spanking). We will have to look another time at how do we discipline a child and other good questions.

Gillette’s New Ad On Toxic Masculinity Is Breathtaking — And Necessary

I had a chance to watch the new Gillette Ad on Toxic masculinity. It is really good. I liked this article on the video from the Scary Mommy blog.

I also think that as we deconstruct toxic masculinity we need more teaching, and discussion on what regular masculinity looks like. Anything that starts this discussion is great to see.

The #MeToo movement has opened a lot of conversations about the way men treat women. We know it’s up to men to change their behavior, but women have been saying that for generations. We need men to hold other men accountable. Enter Gillette’s powerful new ad that asks them to do exactly that.

The ad, targeted at men and called “We Believe,” begins with audio of news about the #MeToo movement. A narrator then takes on the common phrase, “boys will be boys,” asking, “It this the best a man can get? Is it? We can’t hide from it. It has gone on far too long. We can’t laugh it off, making the same old excuses.”
The commercial depicts men stepping in to stop their brethren from catcalling and telling women to smile. It shows a father breaking up a fight between two little boys at a BBQ instead of letting them “be boys” and another dad fending off bullies from a little boy while his small son watches intently. It shows a mother cradling her bullied son as vile text messages from his tormentors are shown.


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Rap Music and Substance Use: Addiction and Mental Health

Came across this really good article on drugs and mental health looking at it from the standpoint of rap music. It goes through the history of drugs and alcohol through the last few decades. Well worth the read.

In a 2013 interview with The Arsenio Hall Show, Kendrick Lamar said in reference to molly and its popularity in rap music, “You have certain artists portraying these trends and don’t really have that lifestyle and then it gives off the wrong thing.”

In 2017, Beeson and a team of researchers at Northwestern University conducted an analysis of the Billboard Hot 100 year-end charts from 2007 to 2016 to determine the frequency of alcohol-related terms in popular music.

His team found that about 33.7 percent of rap songs on the Billboard charts contained at least one reference to alcohol. The rappers with the most alcohol mentions in their Billboard Hot 100 music during that time period were Flo Rida, Drake and Lil Wayne.
Beeson said alcohol mentions are not necessarily an endorsement of drinking. While some rap artists examined in the analysis promoted alcohol use, others stressed the dangers of heavy drinking.
“The music does not cause teens to drink, but it can influence them to do so,” said Beeson. “There is research suggesting that a correlation exists between mentions of alcohol and drug use and teen substance use.


“I couldn’t believe that anybody could be naturally happy without being on something. So I would say to anybody: ‘It does get better.’”
EMINEM

“My anxiety and depression have ruled my life for as long as I can remember and I never leave the house because of it.”
KID CUDI

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YouTube influencers: Inside the weird world of social media burnout

Great video talking about social media. Something parents and students should watch. * small language

What’s it like to have millions of fans when you’re 10? What’s it like to have thousands of people insult or adore you? Welcome to the strange world of social media superstars.

Stephanie Hegarty meets the young people whose lives are built around likes, but are increasingly suffering from mental health problems and burn out.

If you’ve been affected by any of the issues in this video, you can find lots of advice and information at BBC Action Line.

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Is Masturbation a sin? Is it wrong? | Christian Worldview

I struggled with whether to vlog about this topic as it is one of those topics that we really don’t talk about in the church world. When we do talk about it, we often have differing opinions on this, and it just leads to unhealthy discourse. I think it is imperative that we address masturbation as it an issue that not only adults (men and women) but our children (again men and women) need to understand. We are ALL struggling with topics like masturbation, pornography, sex, etc in our modern sexualized culture today. Now, I need you to bear with me. This will be a little longer than my usual videos as we need to address this conversation in a context that is more than just a yes or no to masturbation.
This discussion is actually part of a larger umbrella which is how we get a Christian Worldview of healthy sexuality or what I often call a Christian sexual ethic. How you view, masturbation is actually under a greater context of how you consider all topics from sex, pornography, dating, and also masturbation amongst others.

As Christians we can have differing opinions on issues and still be brothers and sisters in Christ

Love to hear your thoughts on this. With topics like this please keep all discussion respectful.

He Started Vaping As A Teen And Now Says Habit Is ‘Impossible To Let Go’

Vaping seems to be a huge conversation with teens and parents as I travel. Here is another article talking about the addictive nature of vaping. I always hear people say that vaping is better than inhaling cigarette smoke. Why do we have to inhale anything is usually my response. If you are using a vape to switch from cigarettes I think it is great. Then you should be decreasing and coming off of vape as well.

E-cigarettes are tiny — they look like a pen or flash drive. When someone vapes, there’s no fire, ash or smoky odor. Instead, the devices heat up and vaporize a liquid or solid. And vaping appears to have taken off among young people.

“They specifically use nicotine salts,” Liptzin says. “We have no research that I could find on nicotine salts that are inhaled, because it’s so new.”

Most educators, parents and students “don’t realize how much nicotine is in there, or that there’s even any nicotine,” she says. “That’s what the research tells us.”

“So my biggest concern,” he says, “is, you know, right now I’m puffing, puffing, happy, worry-free, and then in 20 years I’ll have to explain to my kids why I’ve developed popcorn lung — or some new form of lung cancer,” Lavandier says. “Because I didn’t know what the risks were of e-cigarettes. It terrifies me.”

love to hear peoples thoughts. Thanks

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