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Growing Up in Pornland: Girls Have Had It with Porn Conditioned Boys

Such a hard article to read. What a tough time to grow up today especially being a young women. So much information available and yet so little education and parenting on the topic of creating (for us as Christians) a Biblical Worldview of healthy sexuality.

Love to hear from young women if this is the experience they are having. Love to hear from anybody on what we can do and are doing to combat this?

Pornography is moulding and conditioning the sexual behaviours and attitudes of boys, and girls are being left without the resources to deal with these porn-saturated boys.

My own engagement with young women over the last few years in schools around Australia, confirms that we are conducting a pornographic experiment on young people – an assault on their healthy sexual development.

As the Plan Australia/Our Watch report found, girls are tired of being pressured for images they don’t want to send, but they seem resigned to how normal the practice has become. Boys use the images as a form of currency, to swap and share and to use to humiliate girls publicly.

A 2012 review of research on “The Impact of Internet Pornography on Adolescents” found that adolescent consumption of Internet pornography was linked to attitudinal changes, including acceptance of male dominance and female submission as the primary sexual paradigm, with women viewed as “sexual playthings eager to fulfil male sexual desires.” The authors found that “adolescents who are intentionally exposed to violent sexually explicit material were six times more likely to be sexually aggressive than those who were not exposed.”

Click here for the entire article. (Note ** some sexualized language)

To the boys: you must unlearn this. (Must read) ‪‎FightTheNewDrug‬

Really good. Take the time to read this.

**Note** this is written for men. It is not saying that women do not struggle with porn. It is a poem written by men for men. What would be awesome is for a woman to write a similar post just for women. Anyone up to the challenge? I am thinking that #FightTheNewDrug might put one out as I saw a tons of comments on this post that said the same thing. I suggest following them on social media.

Here is their website as well – Click Here

Ted Bundy’s Last Interview

3:29 onward is a very scary statement on culture.

We are your sons and husbands. We grew up in regular families. Pornography can reach in and snatch a kid out of any house today. It snatched me out of my home 20 or 30 years ago. As diligent as my parents were, and they were diligent in protecting their children, and as good a Christian home as we had, there is no protection against the kinds of influences that are loose in a society that tolerates …

Guilt vs. Shame: Why Definitions Matter

Another great article I read for my new talk The Porn Project.

Guilt is an awareness of failure against a standard. Shame is a sense of failure before the eyes of someone else.

In other words, guilt is about disobedience to a law or code, but shame is how I perceive others see me (or how I see myself).

Click here or the screenshot below for the article.

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Jefferson Bethke: Porn and Technology

Great talk from Jefferson Bethke at Q Ideas

Research suggests that pornography is a “new narcotic” with equally powerful effects on the brain as addictive drugs. In a globalized world, how can we overcome the temptations and tragedies of technology? Jefferson Bethke believes the answer lies within the problem. The voice of the viral YouTube video “Why I Love Jesus but Hate Religion,” Jeff uses the internet as a positive means of confession and expression. His challenging talk will address a serious issue in today’s society.

Click here or the screenshot below to watch the video.

Growing Up in a Pornified Culture | Gail Dines | TEDxNavesink

When you think that porn is the major form of sex ed. think what is going to happen to the next generation of boys. most of whom are brought up on hard core mainstream internet porn.

nobody has said to him this is not who you are.

my son is worth better than this!

you don’t need a Ph D to understand the violence

(**language, might be triggering for those addicted to pornography).

Really important conversation.

I am Second: Ryan Ries

All Ryan could remember was waking up the next morning to his friends saying, “Dude, we thought you were dead last night.” The drugs, the parties, the girls and sleepless nights followed Ryan from high school into his skateboarding career. But from that one night his life began to change.

He started a search for God.  Was going to church going to be enough? What about his secret addiction? Would it mean giving up his old lifestyle?

Click here or the screenshot below for their website.

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