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8 Things Kids Need to do *By Themselves* by the Time They’re Teenagers

As parents we must look forward at how we are launching our kids into being young adults and then adults. I really like this article on things our kids need to learn to do for themselves. I do think there is  balance that needs to be had. The more my kids do for themselves the more I am open to helping them out in a jam. I tell my kids always that “I am for them” I think this article misses a little of the grace we all need some days but I love the idea of kids having to learn and grow themselves.

Anything you think is missing?

Click here for the entire article.

Upcoming Tour Dates in Saskatchewan, New Brunswick and Manitoba

Saskatchewan

Date: Friday, Feb 10th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
This evening talk is not part of the Equipping Conference and all Parents are welcome.

Date: Saturday, Feb 11th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded)

Date: Saturday, Feb 11th/Sunday Feb 12th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Church Services (all 3) Saturday 7PM, Sunday 9AM & 11AM (Walking Wounded)

Date: Sunday Feb 12th
Location: Cornerstone Christian School (43 Iroquois St. E, Moose Jaw, SK)
7pm (Walking Wounded Talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 12th
Location: Cornerstone Christian School (43 Iroquois St. E, Moose Jaw, SK)
8:45: Students talk on media.faith.culture

New Brunswick

Date: Wednesday, Feb 15th
Location – Grace Church (41 Girouardville Road, Bouctouche, NB)
6:30 (Walking Wounded Talk)

Date: Thursday, Feb 16th
Location – Grace Church (41 Girouardville Road, Bouctouche, NB)
6:30 (media.faith.culture talk)

Date: Friday Feb 17th
Location: The Journey Church (Allison Campus, 1539 Salisbury Road, Moncton, NB)
6:30 media.faith.culture (students and parents)

Date: Sunday Feb 19th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Smythe Street Catherdral (913 Smythe Street, Fredericton, NB)
Both Sunday Services: 9am and 11am: Walking Wounded Talk

Date: Sunday Feb 19th
Location: The Journey Church (Allison Campus, 1539 Salisbury Road, Moncton, NB)
6:30 (Walking Wounded Talk)

Manitoba

Date: Wednesday, Feb 22nd
Location – Victory Family Church (127 4 Ave NE, Altona, MB)
7:00 (media.faith.culture talk) students and parents

Date: Thursday, Feb 23rd
Location – Grace Mennonite Church (1350 Pembina Avenue, Winkler, MB)
7:00pm (media.faith.culture talk) Parents/Leaders

Date: Friday Feb 24th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Equipping Conference: Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
All parents / leaders welcome – no costs.

Date: Saturday, Feb 25th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 26th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 26th
Location: Calvary Temple (400 Hargrave Street, Winnipeg, MB )
media.faith.culture talk 6pm (Buntain Chapel)

If you are around please come out to these events. If you have any questions please just send me an email or a message.

Case for the filming of my new talk dating.for.life: the questions

To whom it may concern,

It was 1996 when I did my first talk at a church in Pickering to a room full of high school students. Talking about music and media and how our faith plays a role in this. 10 years later I found my self speaking 45 times per year while still teaching full time with the Toronto District School Board. I left teaching that year and have been speaking full time with Worlds Apart since then.

In his book Holy Discontent Bill Hybels talks about finding out what your Holy Discontent (those things that continuously bother you) are and to walk into that space. That has been the theme for all of my talks for 19 years. Every few years I would add a talk (Self Harm, dating, men, sex, mental health and most recently pornography.

In the last 3 years I have had the chance to film my talks on Mental Health (The Walking Wounded), my talk on sex for parents (The Sex Talk) and my talk on pornography (The Porn Project).

One of the things I hear nightly from students, parents and leaders is the conversation on dating. Questions like “How should a Christian date in these modern times?” are asked almost nightly to me.

I have an older talk called dating.for.life that I have now put on youtube (see entire presentation below)

It is a look at all aspect of dating. It has been about 8-9 years since I created this presentation and I found myself needing to update that talk. I have a new version of my dating talk called dating.for.life: the questions. It basically goes over 8 main questions:

  1. What is dating?
  2. When should I start dating?
  3. Am I ready to start dating?
  4. How do I start dating?
  5. What are Red Flags in my dating relationships?
  6. How do I find out if they are the “One”?
  7. How do I break up?
  8. What if they are the right person for me?

As a speaker I am able to speak about 150 times a year. I am unable to speak at every church and school in the country. My filmed talks are being used in churches from California to England, from Vancouver to St. Johns. I receive emails from people using the DVD or Digital downloads to help equip people in their churches, camps and families to help people with mental health struggles, conversations on sex and helping equip parents and leaders in this tough conversation on pornography. This is the same I want to do with my new dating.for.life – the questions talk.

To do this project we are looking at raising $8,500

$5500 for filming and editing of the talk. It is the editing of the talk that is so time consuming as we need to incorporate a professionally designed Keynote presentation throughout the filmed talk. It gives people the same experience as if I was speaking live at their church or school. This includes a trailer for promotion.

$1000 – Creating Master copy of DVD, Creation of Graphics for DVD jacket and cover.

$2000 – printing of 1500 DVD’s.  The Talk is also put online on VimeoOnDemand.com

Total funds – $8500

We find as a small non for profit it is hard to raise funds. We are cut out of applying for most grants from foundations as we don’t reach their $250k minimum income. We are not looking at raising funds for day to day operations but raising the funds specifically for this project.

If you would like to chat please contact me at the email below. If you would like to make a donation please follow this link – https://www.canadahelps.org/dn/15850

Thanks for your consideration.

Executive Director
Worlds Apart (worldsapart.org)
Brett Ullman

brett@brettullman.com

 

Great Music Video: NF: How Could You Leave Us

Powerful music video. Check it out.

 

“How Could You Leave Us” Lyrics

How could you leave us so unexpected?
We waited, we waited.
For you but you just left us
We needed you, I needed you

Yo, I don’t know what it’s like to be addicted to pills
But I do know what it’s like to be a witness it kills
Mama told me she love me, I’m thinking this isn’t real
I think of you when I get a whiff of that cigarette smell, yeah
Welcome to the bottom of hell
They say pain is a prison, let me out of my cell
You say you proud of me, but you don’t know me that well
Sit in my room, tears running down my face and I yell
Into my pillowcases, you say you coming to get us
Then call a minute later just to tell us you not, I’m humiliated
I’m in a room with a parent that I don’t barely know
Some lady in the corner watching us, while she taking notes
I don’t get it mom, don’t you want to watch your babies grow?
I guess pills are more important, all you have to say is no
But you won’t do it will you? You gon’ keep popping ’til them pills kill you
I know you gone but I can still feel you

Why would you leave us? Why would you leave us here?
How could you leave us here?
How could you leave us? Why would you leave us?
Oh, Hey

I got this picture in my room and it kills me
But I don’t need a picture of my mom, I need the real thing
Now a relationship is something we will never have
Why do I feel like I lost something that I never had?
You shoulda been there when I graduated
Told me you love me and congratulations
Instead you left us at the window waiting
Where you at mom? We’re too young to understand where you at huh?
Yeah, I know those drugs got you held captive
I can see it in your eyes, they got your mind captured
Some say it’s fun to get the high but I am not laughing
What you don’t realise and what you not grasping
That I was nothing but a kid who couldn’t understand
I ain’t gon’ say that I forgive you cause it hasn’t happened
I thought that maybe I feel better as time passes
If you really cared for me, then where you at then?

Why would you leave us? Why would you leave us?
How could you leave us here?
How could you leave us? Why would you leave us?
Oh, hey

Our last conversation, you and I sat in the living room
Talking ’bout my music and I brought you some to listen to
You started crying, telling me this isn’t you
Couple weeks later, guess you were singing a different tune
You took them pills for the last time, didn’t you?
They took you from us once, guess they came back to finish you
Crying my eyes out in the studio is difficult
Music is the only place that I can go to speak to you
Took me everything inside of me to not scream at your funeral
Sitting in my chair, that person talking was pitiful
I wish you were here mama but every time I picture you
All I feel is pain, I hate the way I remember you
They found you on the floor, I could tell you felt hollow
Gave everything you had plus your life to them pill bottles
You gave everything you had plus your life to them pill bottles
Don’t know if you hear me or not, but if you still watching why?

Why would you leave us? Why would you leave us?
How could you leave us here?
How could you leave us? Why would you leave us?
Oh, hey

[Sobbing] Sometimes I think about like, sometimes I think about things like, you know, when I have kids, you won’t be there, you know? You won’t be there for any of that, I’ll never get to see you again, sometimes I wish I would have just called you, I wish I would have just picked up the phone, wish you were here, I mean you should of been there for us, you should have been here, those pills got you, right? Them pills got you, right? I wish you were here

Guest Blog: Kingdom Bound Music Festival

Thanks to Brett for letting me take a quick minute to share with you about Kingdom Bound 2017 – Western NY’s largest and longest running Christian music festival. We’re thrilled to have Brett returning to the festival this year! We (along with thousands of others) have been so blessed by his ministry.

Have you ever been to Kingdom Bound? For those of you who have never been please read on so I can share just a little taste of what this festival is all about.

We believe that Kingdom Bound is for EVERYONE!  We think of this festival as a full-family experience.  Anyone/everyone infancy to senior adulthood enjoys these 4 jam-packed days at Kingdom Bound.  We have large youth groups from churches and charity organizations with us each day (and overnight) as well as families that choose Kingdom Bound as their event/vacation of the summer.

So what is Kingdom Bound? We’re a 4-day Christian Music and Arts Festival at Darien Lake Amusement Park in Darien Center, NY. This year’s dates are July 26-29th.  Darien Lake is a full-experience park complete with thrill rides (6 great Roller Coasters) and a very large water park.  We also “take over” all of Darien Lake’s accommodations, which include a 160-room hotel, dozens of cabins and rentable RV’s and a campsite that features over 400 water & electric sites.  It’s a HUGE undertaking that features over 60 bands and speakers at multiple stages across the park, including a 25,000 capacity Live Nation venue.  Over 40 thousand tickets are sold annually to this event over the 4 days.

In addition to all the great music and speakers one of the things that most excites me about the festival is our special offerings for teens and families. AWAKEN, our new youth program geared to high school and college students launched last year at Kingdom Bound to great success with 100s of students participating. We’re expecting 2017 to be even bigger and better. The morning will begin with breakfast (on-grounds guests only), followed by worship and a morning keynote message. Interactive games will follow and the morning will close with break-out sessions for students and leadership. This was a transformative experience for many students last year and we fully expect God to be at work in this year’s group as well.

In addition to this we have a Kids Tent each day for kids 4-8, and our AMPED TENT for tweens 9-13. These are great places for families with younger children to let their kids experience the excitement of Kingdom Bound in a special (secure) environment created just for them.

Kingdom Bound has so much to offer for everyone and ultimately that’s our goal. We believe that these 4 days have the potential to be life transforming for so many of those who attend. Year after year we hear stories of the way that God has worked through the festival. Broken families healed, suicides averted, addictions overcome, churches united, meeting needs of dozens of ministries, and so much more! Please join us this year and together let’s discover all that God has for us!

For more information, please visit www.KingdomBound.org or connect with us on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/kingdomboundministry

A lawyer rewrote Instagram’s terms of use ‘in plain English’ so kids would know their privacy rights

Great article I read this morning. I think it needs to be explained to not just kids but to people of ALL ages.

Other complex paragraphs were similarly condensed to sentences that were easier to digest:

  • “Don’t bully anyone or post anything horrible about people.”
  • “Officially you own any original pictures and videos you post, but we are allowed to use them, and we can let others use them as well, anywhere around the world. Other people might pay us to use them and we will not pay you for that.”
  • “Although you are responsible for the information you put on Instagram, we may keep, use and share your personal information with companies connected with Instagram. This information includes your name, email address, school, where you live, pictures, phone number, your likes and dislikes, where you go, who your friends are, how often you use Instagram, and any other personal information we find such as your birthday or who you are chatting with, including in private messages (DMs).”

To read this entire article please click here.

Alberta Tour!

Hi Everyone,

I hope you all had a great Christmas and New Years. If you live in Alberta I will be out your way for an entire week in Jan. Below are the speaking dates, locations, times and which talks I will be doing. Love to have you out.

Date: Saturday Jan 14th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Falconridge Family Church(155 Falconridge Cres. N.E. Calgary, AB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Afternoon Session: 3-4pm (Walking Wounded)
Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
This evening talk is not part of the Equipping Conference and all Parents are welcome.

Date: Sunday Jan 15th (World Vision Sponsored service)
Location: Falconridge Family Church(155 Falconridge Cres. N.E. Calgary, AB)
Sunday Service – 10am (media.faith.culture talk for parents and students)

Date: Monday Jan 16th
Location – St Joseph School (3804 47 St, Whitecourt, AB)
1:40 pm Walking Wounded talk
Location: Whitecourt Baptist Church (6240 47 ST, Whitecourt, AB)
7pm Walking Wounded talk

Date: Tuesday Jan 17th
Location: Mill Woods Assembly (2225 66 St NW, Edmonton)
6:30 media.faith.culture (students and parents)

Date: Wednesday Jan 18th
Location: Mill Woods Assembly (2225 66 St NW, Edmonton)
Men’s Wing Night
7PM The Man Talk (to register)

Date: Thursday Jan 19th
Location: Bethel Church (5410  53 Ave. Barrhead, AB)
7pm The Man Talk

Date: Friday Jan 20th 
Location: McKenzie Towne Church (7 Mckenzie Towne Gate SE)
7pm The Porn Project (Parents, leaders)

Date: Sat. Jan 21st 
LocationRichmond Hill Baptist Church (7251 Sierra Morena Blvd. SW)
CYW Fuel: Calgary
Walking Wounded & The Porn Project

If you are around please come out to these events. For both the Equipping Conference and the CYW Fuel Conference you will need to get tickets. If you have any questions please just send me an email or a message.

Tattoos: What’s your Story?

For over 15 years when I am with someone who has a tattoo I love to ask people the story behind their ink. It is fascinating to hear the answers.

I remember being in line at the grocery store and behind me was a tough looking guy. He was my height., very muscular and had a ton of tattoos and piercings. The one that stuck out to me was a tattoo of a hand coming out of his shirt and then the fingers were grasping around his throat. I turned to him and asked about his tattoo. He told me that he struggles with anxiety/depression and the tattoo represents the choke hold it has on his life. Wow!

Are you willing to share your tattoo story?

What does it mean to you?

I would LOVE for you to post a picture of your tattoo and then explain why you got it.