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How To Actually Comfort Your Partner During An Anxiety Attack (Because Saying ‘Don’t Worry’ Does Nothing)

We often talk about how someone struggling with anxiety or panic can help themselves but we rarely seem to talk about how loved ones can support people in this tough moment. This is a really good practical article on how to help people going through a panic attack.

Anxiety is difficult on a few levels for the individual that suffers from the disorder, but when it’s your partner, it can be challenging to help them get back to being themselves after having a panic attack. It’s scary, it’s confusing, and to some sufferers it can feel incredibly isolating. Let me iterate here that it is never your responsibility to “fix” what is going on, as it’s something only the sufferer can do, but sometimes it can be useful to know how to help your partner feel better. Here are a few things you can do to help your partner when they are having a panic attack.

For the entire article please click here.

A photographer edits out our smartphones to show our strange and lonely new world

Do you see yourself in these photos? If so changes need to be made.

Are you reading this on a handheld device? There’s a good chance you are. Now imagine how’d you look if that device suddenly disappeared. Lonely? Slightly crazy? Perhaps next to a person being ignored? As we are sucked in ever more by the screens we carry around, even in the company of friends and family, the hunched pose of the phone-absorbed seems increasingly normal.

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We Can Change the World by Changing the Way We Raise Boys

Saw this online yesterday and loved it. Thought I would share it with you in case you have not seen it. Well worth the read.

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Men do not have to give up their masculine nature. They have to redefine it. They don’t need to be warriors for territory and power over others. They can be warriors for peace, the environment, social justice and equal rights.

Men do not need to become more like women. They need to become more fully human, more in touch with who they are, free to achieve their human potential, including the full range of emotional expression.

Social change happens one person at a time. When we change the way we raise boys, we will change the world.

Serving Parents Who Do Not Go To Your Church

This is a really good article for anyone who works with students in the church world. I have often said that a Jr/Sr High Pastors job needs to be educating and empowering parents as well. As a parent myself I had to take a second and try and figure out if I am one of the parenting styles he mentions:

  • Helicopter Parents– they hover too close to the kids at all times.
  • Karaoke Parents– they try too hard to be cool, often parroting back what their kids do, say, and wear.
  • Dry-Cleaner Parents– drop their kids off for others to raise.
  • Volcano Parents– erupt over minor issues. (If you’ve never witnessed this just spend more time at Wal-Mart.  You’re bound to encounter these parents.)
  • Dropout Parents– these parents have just quit on their kids.
  • Bullied Parents– can’t stand up to their kids.
  • Groupie Parents– treat their kids like rock stars.
  • Commando Parents – let rules trump relationships.

There are some good practical ways to engage the parents of the students you work with.

Click here for the entire article.

Upcoming Tour Dates in Victoria / Duncan, B.C.

Date: Wednesday, March 8th
Location: Pacific Christian School (654 Agnes St Victoria, BC)
10-11am (media.faith.culture)

Date: Wednesday, March 8th
Location: Lambrick Park Church (1780 Feltham Road, Victoria, BC)
7-9pm (Parents 101)

Date: Thursday, March 9th
Location: Glad Tidings Church (1800 Quadra St., Victoria, BC)
6:30-8:30 (Walking Wounded)

Date: Friday, March 10th
Location: Victoria Church of the Nazarene (4277 Quadra St., Victoria BC)
7-9pm (media.faith.culture)

Date: Saturday, March 11th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Oasis Church (3540 Auchinachie Road, Duncan, BC)
Equipping.ca Conference (Walking Wounded) 9-4:30

Date: Saturday, March 11th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Oasis Church (3540 Auchinachie Road, Duncan, BC)
7-9 (Parents 101)

Date: Sunday, March 12th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location:Oasis Church (3540 Auchinachie Road, Duncan, BC)
10:30 morning service (TBD)

 

8 Things Kids Need to do *By Themselves* by the Time They’re Teenagers

As parents we must look forward at how we are launching our kids into being young adults and then adults. I really like this article on things our kids need to learn to do for themselves. I do think there is  balance that needs to be had. The more my kids do for themselves the more I am open to helping them out in a jam. I tell my kids always that “I am for them” I think this article misses a little of the grace we all need some days but I love the idea of kids having to learn and grow themselves.

Anything you think is missing?

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Upcoming Tour Dates in Saskatchewan, New Brunswick and Manitoba

Saskatchewan

Date: Friday, Feb 10th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
This evening talk is not part of the Equipping Conference and all Parents are welcome.

Date: Saturday, Feb 11th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded)

Date: Saturday, Feb 11th/Sunday Feb 12th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Avenue E. Regina, SK)
Church Services (all 3) Saturday 7PM, Sunday 9AM & 11AM (Walking Wounded)

Date: Sunday Feb 12th
Location: Cornerstone Christian School (43 Iroquois St. E, Moose Jaw, SK)
7pm (Walking Wounded Talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 12th
Location: Cornerstone Christian School (43 Iroquois St. E, Moose Jaw, SK)
8:45: Students talk on media.faith.culture

New Brunswick

Date: Wednesday, Feb 15th
Location – Grace Church (41 Girouardville Road, Bouctouche, NB)
6:30 (Walking Wounded Talk)

Date: Thursday, Feb 16th
Location – Grace Church (41 Girouardville Road, Bouctouche, NB)
6:30 (media.faith.culture talk)

Date: Friday Feb 17th
Location: The Journey Church (Allison Campus, 1539 Salisbury Road, Moncton, NB)
6:30 media.faith.culture (students and parents)

Date: Sunday Feb 19th (World Vision Sponsored Event)
Location: Smythe Street Catherdral (913 Smythe Street, Fredericton, NB)
Both Sunday Services: 9am and 11am: Walking Wounded Talk

Date: Sunday Feb 19th
Location: The Journey Church (Allison Campus, 1539 Salisbury Road, Moncton, NB)
6:30 (Walking Wounded Talk)

Manitoba

Date: Wednesday, Feb 22nd
Location – Victory Family Church (127 4 Ave NE, Altona, MB)
7:00 (media.faith.culture talk) students and parents

Date: Thursday, Feb 23rd
Location – Grace Mennonite Church (1350 Pembina Avenue, Winkler, MB)
7:00pm (media.faith.culture talk) Parents/Leaders

Date: Friday Feb 24th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Equipping Conference: Evening Parents night – 7pm (Parents 101)
All parents / leaders welcome – no costs.

Date: Saturday, Feb 25th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Equipping Conference (http://equipping.ca)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 26th (World Vision Sponsored Event))
Location: Zion Apostolic Church (305 Machray Avenue, Winnipeg, MB)
Speaking in the afternoon of the equipping conference (Walking Wounded talk)

Date: Sunday Feb 26th
Location: Calvary Temple (400 Hargrave Street, Winnipeg, MB )
media.faith.culture talk 6pm (Buntain Chapel)

If you are around please come out to these events. If you have any questions please just send me an email or a message.

Guest Blog: Kingdom Bound Music Festival

Thanks to Brett for letting me take a quick minute to share with you about Kingdom Bound 2017 – Western NY’s largest and longest running Christian music festival. We’re thrilled to have Brett returning to the festival this year! We (along with thousands of others) have been so blessed by his ministry.

Have you ever been to Kingdom Bound? For those of you who have never been please read on so I can share just a little taste of what this festival is all about.

We believe that Kingdom Bound is for EVERYONE!  We think of this festival as a full-family experience.  Anyone/everyone infancy to senior adulthood enjoys these 4 jam-packed days at Kingdom Bound.  We have large youth groups from churches and charity organizations with us each day (and overnight) as well as families that choose Kingdom Bound as their event/vacation of the summer.

So what is Kingdom Bound? We’re a 4-day Christian Music and Arts Festival at Darien Lake Amusement Park in Darien Center, NY. This year’s dates are July 26-29th.  Darien Lake is a full-experience park complete with thrill rides (6 great Roller Coasters) and a very large water park.  We also “take over” all of Darien Lake’s accommodations, which include a 160-room hotel, dozens of cabins and rentable RV’s and a campsite that features over 400 water & electric sites.  It’s a HUGE undertaking that features over 60 bands and speakers at multiple stages across the park, including a 25,000 capacity Live Nation venue.  Over 40 thousand tickets are sold annually to this event over the 4 days.

In addition to all the great music and speakers one of the things that most excites me about the festival is our special offerings for teens and families. AWAKEN, our new youth program geared to high school and college students launched last year at Kingdom Bound to great success with 100s of students participating. We’re expecting 2017 to be even bigger and better. The morning will begin with breakfast (on-grounds guests only), followed by worship and a morning keynote message. Interactive games will follow and the morning will close with break-out sessions for students and leadership. This was a transformative experience for many students last year and we fully expect God to be at work in this year’s group as well.

In addition to this we have a Kids Tent each day for kids 4-8, and our AMPED TENT for tweens 9-13. These are great places for families with younger children to let their kids experience the excitement of Kingdom Bound in a special (secure) environment created just for them.

Kingdom Bound has so much to offer for everyone and ultimately that’s our goal. We believe that these 4 days have the potential to be life transforming for so many of those who attend. Year after year we hear stories of the way that God has worked through the festival. Broken families healed, suicides averted, addictions overcome, churches united, meeting needs of dozens of ministries, and so much more! Please join us this year and together let’s discover all that God has for us!

For more information, please visit www.KingdomBound.org or connect with us on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/kingdomboundministry

A lawyer rewrote Instagram’s terms of use ‘in plain English’ so kids would know their privacy rights

Great article I read this morning. I think it needs to be explained to not just kids but to people of ALL ages.

Other complex paragraphs were similarly condensed to sentences that were easier to digest:

  • “Don’t bully anyone or post anything horrible about people.”
  • “Officially you own any original pictures and videos you post, but we are allowed to use them, and we can let others use them as well, anywhere around the world. Other people might pay us to use them and we will not pay you for that.”
  • “Although you are responsible for the information you put on Instagram, we may keep, use and share your personal information with companies connected with Instagram. This information includes your name, email address, school, where you live, pictures, phone number, your likes and dislikes, where you go, who your friends are, how often you use Instagram, and any other personal information we find such as your birthday or who you are chatting with, including in private messages (DMs).”

To read this entire article please click here.