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We Can’t Ignore This Silent Crisis In Men’s Mental Health

Important conversations. Please read.

Around 80 per cent of suicides in Canada are carried out by men, with men aged 40-60 having the highest rates. Likewise rates of substance use disorder are very high in this demographic, outnumbering women by a rate of three to one. Moreover, some research suggests that depression is elevated in this group. But this is under-reported due to diagnostic bias, where clinicians perceive depression as a “woman’s illness,” and act accordingly.

All this could be due to various factors.

Firstly, traditionally male industries such as manufacturing, forestry and fishing have declined precipitously. This has left many middle-aged men (especially in rural areas) unemployed or under-employed; leaving them without pride, meaning and purpose in life.

Secondly, research suggests that middle-aged men experience divorce and separation particularly hard. This can be a painful process, with men often losing their children, savings, friends, home and reputation. Indeed, a recent Canadian study shows poor mental health in this group.

Thirdly, there are few specific statutory services targeted to helping middle-aged men. For example a recent Statistics Canada report noted that there were 627 shelters for abused women and zero for abused men, even though men make up around 50 per cent of abuse victims.

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Brett Ullman: Topics for your Church, Conference, School or Camp

Hi Everyone,

I hope you all enjoying your summer. As we begin planning another school / ministry year I wanted to send out a blog with information on all of the talks that I do. Below is a list of the topics that I offer:

(1) The Walking Wounded – This talk is looking at how we as Christians can have a practical yet Biblical approach to help people struggling with mental health. It includes my own journey struggling with anxiety as well. It answers the question “What do you do when you or someone you love is struggling with Anxiety?”
Promotional Video – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzLLIMTHz1I
Designed for: I do this talk for many Sunday morning church services as well as special nights for parents / students. In schools I do this for High School age.

(2) The.Sex.Talk (Parents Edition) is a version of my sex talk designed for parents. It is NOT a talk about the new Health Curriculum but a talk about how we as parents can help our kids create a Biblical worldview in the area of sex. It is meant to be very practical to help parents in this bridge these topics with our kids.
Promotional Video – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8VI7Acaj6w
Designed for: Parents & a similar version for High School Students

(3) media.faith.culture – the disconnect – This is a fully re-done talk. This talk is a broad talk looking into how we connect our faith with our culture (music, movies, social media etc). Answering the question of how do we connect our ancient faith with our modern world.
Designed for: Grade 7-8 (Could be 6-8). High School & Parents. This is my most common talk for Sunday morning services, youth groups as well as Schools (Elementary and High School)

(4) The Porn Project – is my brand new talk on pornography. It is less about pornography and more about how we as Christians can break free from our struggles with this and how to help our kids in this journey as well
Designed for: Parents & High School Students

(5) Dating.for.life: The Questions – In this new update of my dating for life talk I have gone back to the basics. In this new talk I answer 8 questions on dating: What is dating? When should I start dating? How do I start dating? How do I break up? etc.
Designed for: High School Students

(6) The Man Talk – The Man Talk is what it sounds like – a discussion about what it’s like to be a Man today. It’s a real talk, a meat and potatoes approach to issues pressing us from all sides. In this talk I challenge men to be better husbands, fathers and boyfriends.
Designed for: Men’s Breakfasts or special events at church

If you are interested in any talk please let me know. you can find more information on each talk off of my www.brettullman.com website.

Thanks for your time,

Brett Ullman
Executive Director
Worlds Apart
www.brettullman.com

P.S. I also have a large resource blog on my website www.brettullman.com. You can just go to the site and click on the headings and find hundreds of great resources I have posted this past 2 years in categories like mental health, sex and porn, media, spiritual disciplines, parenting and many more.

Research: Loneliness in Mental Illness

For my research in Loneliness I am going to post 1 area in which we experience loneliness per week and see how people feel in each area. Love to hear any thoughts, quotes, books etc

Last week I asked about Loneliness in leadership and I heard from leaders across the country about their struggles.

This weeks area is looking at loneliness in mental illness. This is a close one to my heart as I think much of my loneliness comes from my journey with anxiety, depression, panic attacks etc. Mental illness makes us live within our own heads and for me often separates from the world around me.

Love to hear any thoughts. You can post in the comments on all social media, this blog or send me an email/PM.

Thanks

Advice: creating a survey about Loneliness.

I am in the process of creating a survey looking at Loneliness and trying to make sure I ask the right questions. Would you mind reading the draft survey below and let me know what I am missing? Any thing I should take out? Any thoughts?
I am NOT asking you to do the survey but to look at the survey itself and make suggestions.
 
1. What is your age range?
[ ] Elementary School (K-8)
[ ] High School (9-12)
[ ] College / University
[ ] 20’s
[ ] 30’s
[ ] 40’s
[ ] 50’s
[ ] 60’s
[ ] 70+
 
2. Are you
[ ] Female
[ ] Male
 
3. Marital Status:
[ ] Single
[ ] Engaged
[ ] Married
[ ] Separated
[ ] Dicorced
[ ] Widowed
Comment (optional)
 
4. Do you have children
[ ] No
[ ] Yes, I have children in Elementary School
[ ] Yes, I have children in High School
[ ] Yes, I have children in College / University
[ ] Yes, I have adult children
Comment (optional):
 
5. Where do you live?
Drop down of all countries
 
6. If you had to answer only yes or no. Is loneliness a struggle you have?
[ ] yes
[ ] no
 
7. On a scale of 1 to 10 what would your experience with loneliness rate
[ ] 1 – not lonely
[ ] 2
[ ] 3 – mildly lonely
[ ] 4
[ ] 5 – moderately lonely
[ ] 6
[ ] 7 – very lonely
[ ] 8
[ ] 9
[ ] 10 – painfully lonely
 
 
8. In what area(s) do you experience loneliness
[ ] marriage
[ ] singleness
[ ] parenting
[ ] leadership
[ ] you’re an introvert
[ ] mental health struggles
[ ] physical health struggles
[ ] seniors
[ ] lack of close friendships
[ ] lack of authentic church community
[ ] sin and disobedience
[ ] life circumstances
[ ] other?
 
9. Do you feel stuck in this place of loneliness?
[ ] yes
[ ] no
 
10. What have you tried to break free from the loneliness?
[ ] exercise
[ ] faith (church)
[ ] counselling
[ ] sports
[ ] volunteer
[ ] build authentic friendships
[ ] go on a date
[ ] grow your relationship with your spouse
[ ] get a pet
[ ] movies
[ ] TV
[ ] Social media
[ ] read books
[ ] hobbies
[ ] journal
[ ] others?
 
11. Have you ever tried other ways of dealing with your loneliness
 
[ ] alcohol
[ ] drugs
[ ] overeating
[ ] self hard
[ ] pornography
[ ] shopping
[ ] sleep
[ ] others?
 
12. How many deep friendships do you have? Friends who authentically accept you and you can be yourself around.
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
comment (optional):
 
13. I feel most lonely when…
comment (optional):
 
14. I don’t feel lonely when…
comment (optional):
15. How do you think we got to this place of loneliness as a society?
comment (optional):
 
Thanks for any help.
 
Brett

Research: Loneliness in Leadership

There are many areas that people experience loneliness in their lives. One area is leadership.

Whether you are a leaders in business, pastor, principal, manager or a leader in any aspect of life I think loneliness is something that people struggle with. “It is lonely at the top” is a quote I have heard many people say.

I would love to hear any of your thoughts on loneliness in leadership. Thoughts, quotes, books, personal stories etc.

If you missed the reason I am doing this research on Loneliness please check out my blog http://www.brettullman.com/new-research-loneliness/

Thanks for any help,

Brett

 

Overnight summer camps are better for your kids than SAT prep classes

I saw this article on Social media this morning and thought it was too good not to share. My kids have been attending Camp Mini-Yo-We since they were 7 years old). My wife and I both grew up going to camp. Dawn was a camper at Circle Square Ranch and Camp Mishewa and worked at Muskoka Woods for 5 years. I grew up at Pleasant Bay Camp and Camp Widjitiwan. These are just a few of the amazing camps just in my small part of Canada. Please feel free to post the camp you were a camper at or where you worked.

Away from the city, technology and academic pressures, kids can grow in creativity, independence and other qualities of successful people.

Summers provide a much-needed opportunity for my children to unplug, achieve focus and develop those creative thought processes and connections.

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My new research: loneliness

One of the most common questions we seem to ask each other is “How are you?”

For many years as people asked me that question the one answer in the back of my mind I have always wanted to say is “… I feel lonely”

So let me say it. I feel lonely. I am surrounded by people in my life and I feel desperately lonely.

Lonely you say. You are married, have 2 teenagers, speak to tens of thousands of people a year, coach baseball, involved in church, and so on.  You should not feel lonely.

All I know is that I am.

So I have decided that I want to begin a personal journey looking at loneliness. I am hoping in time that this journey becomes my newest talk.

Here is where I would like your help. I don’t think I am alone in this journey (no pun intended) If anyone wants to share some of their struggles with loneliness I would love to hear them. I am also hoping to put out a large survey sometime this summer and begin to look at how many people feel the way that I do.

If you come across any books, blogs, articles, youtube videos, documentaries, quotes or basically anything you think might help me as I delve into this concept of loneliness please send it through to me online or privately.

thanks for any support.

Nearly 70% of university students battle loneliness during school year, survey says

Growing problem not just for University students but for people of all ages and stages.

A new study of Canadian university students found more than 66 per cent reported feeling “very lonely” in the past year.

And the problem was worse for female students, with nearly 70 per cent feeling very lonely at least once in the last year, compared with male students at 59 per cent.

More than 43,000 students were surveyed for the National College Health Assessment.

It found about 30 per cent of students “felt very lonely” within the last two weeks.

What are your thoughts on loneliness?

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Mental Health and Mental Illness: A Christian Psychiatrist’s Perspective- Dr. Jonathan Lee

Really good balanced talk here on mental illness and Christian faith.

Is depression really the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain? Is anxiety always a sin? How should a Christian understand PTSD? One in five people in our churches will be affected in their lifetime by depression or anxiety, but mental illness remains a hotbed of controversy, misinformation and stigma. In this practical session, Dr. Lee will offer a holistic Christian perspective– incorporating both medicine and theology– to equip laypeople, pastors and biblical counselors to serve those who are suffering from mental illness with greater empathy.

Check it out!

Demand for youth mental health services is exploding. How universities and business are scrambling to react

Everywhere I speak these days mental health conversations are the biggest question I get from students, leaders and parents.

Data collected from across the country shows the extent of the problems. “There is a perception that this age group is healthy, but they’re not.”

Among the findings:

  • A Star/Ryerson survey of 15 universities and colleges across Canada found all but one have increased their mental health budgets over the past five years. The average increase has been 35 per cent.
  • Academic “accommodations” (special arrangements for students with mental health issues allowing for added time to complete assignments and exams) have also been rising — 143 per cent at the University of Toronto, for example, since 2009.
  • There has been a 344-per-cent increase in calls to the Mental Health Helpline run by ConnexOntario (a toll-free mental health services information line) since 2010 by people 25 or younger.
  • A major survey of 25,164 Ontario university students by the American College Health Association showed that between 2013 and 2016, there was a 50-per-cent increase in anxiety, a 47-per-cent increase in depression and an 86-per-cent increase in substance abuse. Suicide attempts also rose 47 per cent during that period.
  • A growing number of major Canadian corporations that employ young people, including Starbucks and Manulife, have dramatically increased mental health benefits in response to growing demand.
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